(Closed) Uncommon name change situation/ confusion

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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3981 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MsInterpret: You have to provide copies of your marriage lisence, birth certificate, and name change papers any time you would need to provide marriage certififates. All women who change their last name have to do this. Unless they change their last name before signing the marriage certificate. Its not at all unusual.

 

Just out of curiosity, why would the entire name change for both?

Post # 5
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mom did this when she married my step-dad.  They made up a new last name by putting together their mother’s maiden names to create something totally unique.  They went through the regular name change process with a lawyer.

It was a real hassle to go across the border for my mom (before she became a US citizen).  She couldn’t change her name in her home country without going there and going through a lengthly process that could take months, so her passport was in her birth name.  She had to carry her birth certificate, passport, marriage certificate and name change documents whenever traveling.  Her state driver’s license was in her new name.  It made for long stops at airports whenever we traveled, especially when I was a minor because I had a different last name (my bio dad’s name!)  There was one time (when crossing by car into Canada) where an agent didn’t believe my mom that she was from her birth country and brought out another agent who could speak Spanish and made her talk to the agent in Spanish for like 10 minutes. Meanwhile another agent thrashed our car…  For this reason, I am scared to death of customs agents and always get freakishly nervous when I have to cross a border!

Post # 7
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Worker bee

If you’re changing your names completely, you’ll have to go through a lawyer.  I would talk this all over with that lawyer and get everything straight at the same time (update everything that pertains to either of you: passports, licenses, certificates, everything).  Once absolutely everything is changed, you shouldn’t have a problem, but I’m sure you’ll both get junk mail for all of your names.  Junk mail always finds you, lol.

Post # 9
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1553 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It may vary by state, but I don’t think the marriage license gets changed retroactively after a name change.  The marriage license reflects your names at the time of the marriage and I don’t think most states would reissue a new one.  And I’m not sure it would be necessary anyway.  To change your name on your SS card, DL, etc. all you would need is your ID in your old name and then your court order for the new name….unless I am missing something?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@MsInterpret:  Yeah, I get that.  It sounds like it may be a big hassle for you if you do need to show proof of marriage, because you will have to come up with the marriage license AND the name change documents.  

FWIW, I haven’t ever had to show a marriage certificate to prove I’m married for anything.  I added my husband to my insurance and was never asked for proof of marriage.  Unfortunately, as a same-sex couple living in a state where same-sex marriage isn’t legally recognized, you will probably have to deal with a lot more hassle than I have….which sucks.  

But it can’t hurt to contact the the Iowa court and see if they will reissue the license.  I’m guessing not, but it can’t hurt to ask?  Otherwise, you are just going to have to make sure you always have certified copies of everything available…just in case.

EDIT:  The name change process is simple enough in most states that you can probably do so yourself without an attorney.  I’m guessing the court has standard forms they use for this that you can fill out yourself.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We have done this already. I.e. TOTALLY NEW names. First and last. (Not my Darling Husband and I. I mean my own family.) Long, sentimental story which I won’t bore you with.

Process was very simple and straight forward. Go to the Canadian Govt. website, download name change form. EVERY single person who is changing their name (either first, last, or both) fills out this said form. And pays for it individually. You don’t fill it out as a ONE family unit.

Send the form and cheque to the address provided in the instructions. The form is HUGEEEEEEE, mind you! More than 15 pages EACH. Just mostly legal jargon. But there is a small section asking ‘why’ you are doing it. It’s a small section so you don’t have to give a huge history about yourself. Tongue out

Along with the form you also send your current passport AND citizenship cards. ORIGINAL ones. No copies! Also UPDATED photographs of yourselves with stamps in the back with date and place you were photographed.

Then 6 months later we got mail and we had new passports AND citizenship cards with the new photos we had sent AND bearing our NEW NAMES. (The passport time re-generated. So if it was expiring at a certain date before we sent, it was gonna expire at a different date in the future now cuz it was ALL ‘new’ to us.)

Then it was easy to get everything else changed because we took our name change paper + citizenship card + passport and got the drivers license, health card, bank cards, etc. changed.

Perhaps you two should change your names that way and THEN use the same documents to change or amend your marriage license, etc.

Post # 13
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2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

FYA, you also cannot leave the country in this time-frame. I am sure if there was a serious reason, then there are some formalities you would have to go through but since WE didn’t need to go anywhere, it was okay. Smile

Post # 15
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312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MsInterpret: Let me know what you have to do for Iowa.  I live in Iowa and I am planning on changing my name as well.  Not just my last name after I’m married but my first name as well during this time.

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