@Mrs Hedgehog: Well I meant if the change is not reflected on the license.
Say Mary Smith gets married to John Jones. She wants to be Mary Jones and she fills out the license application accordingly and signs the certificate as such, she put s “Mary Jones” as her new name on the license and when it’s returned to the couple after being filed, it will list her as Mary Jones, right?
But in the situation I’m describing, she doesn’t change her name this way and her issued certificate lists her as “Mary Smith”, same as before marriage. Then later she wants to change her name, to Sally Stone or whatever.
sorry if I am confusing matters.
As for the why: my wife and I want to have the same last name, but it wasn’t as simple as me simply taking her last name or her taking my last name because neither of us likes or wants to keep our last name.
Her last name is the name of her mother’s first husband. A man she never even met! Her mom divorced him and then met her father, had a baby but kept her 1st husband’s name and just gave my wife the same last name for simplicity’s sake. She hs zero attachment to the name and it’s super common.
I don’t like my last name either. It is my father’s surname, my relationship with him was never good, it’s very difficult to pronounce, always gets butchered and misspelled and sounds “ugly” to the ears.
So we want to choose a “new” last name for the both of us, not totally new though, the name we want to use is my wife’s Grandma’s maiden name. It’s gorgeous and it’s a family name (for her) and we both like it.
However, we both also want to change our first names. For my wife, she has a nickname that she has gone by for her entire life and it is not legally her name anywhere. It has no relation to her legal first/middle/last. But it’s something she’s always been called and she likes it and everyone knows her by that. Everyone is awlays shocked to learn her “legal” name.
She’d really like her legal name to match what everyone calls her.
Me, I have never liked my first name but always just dealt with it. My mom pretty much admitted that she just picked “whatever” and said it wouldn’t bother her a bit if I changed it!
Going through the name change process via the courts though, as will be necessary for us both to have the same last name, seems like an ideal opportunity to change my first name as well, or at least “add” a name to my name that I would prefer to go by.
I know it’s odd and I know some won’t call me that name regardless, but we are planning a move to a state 1200 miles away next year. Seems like a great time to start using a new name and finally drop the name I can’t stand once and for all! Everyone who knows me agrees that my first name doesn’t fit me at ALL. So I figure it’s time for something that does!
I also have this thing about naming traditions and honoring ancestors with family names whenever possible, so the new name I would choose would be a reflection of that. Not the bland trendy 70’s name my mom gave me!
So in our case:
Mary Smith marries Jane Jones and then Mary Smith later becomes Tiffany Van Winkle, and Jane Jones becomes Sarah Van Winkle. Their marriage certificate doesn’t bear any connection to who they now are (Sarah and Tiffany VanWinkle!)… do they get a new one?