Post # 1
So I have a question:
I have noticed that anytime someone spells their name or baby’s name differently than what it common, people find it annoying or advise them not to do that.
I just want to hear some opinions, why? Why do so many people think it’s a bad idea?
I, personally, have a very uncommon name (not even in the top 1000 on the census bureau), and no one EVER spells it right. Sure I have to spell it out everywhere I go, but honestly I DON’T MIND! I guess I love my individuality. I love that no one in any class I’ve ever taken, shared my name and I love that it’s different and beautiful and I am the only person who has to live up to this name. It’s mine, you know?
Anyhow, just want to see why people feel/think different things 🙂
Post # 3
You are the only person I’ve ever met with an uncomon spelling who doesn’t mind CONSTANTLY having to correct people (either on the spelling, the pronunciation, or both). Plus it gets screwed up on documents and thing that have to be re-done. It is really just a pain, IMO.
Plus, now-a-days a lot of people are purposfully creating really silly looking mis-spellings of name to try to make their children have “unique” names. IMO, it makes them look illiterate.
I try to look at it from a perspective of when my future children graduate college and are looking for jobs. Is this name going to look adult and professional on the top of a resume? If not, I’d never consider it for my child.
Post # 4
To me, giving a kid a unique spelling is just pointless.
If they’re in a class with 2 other Ashley’s, it won’t make a difference that their name is Ashlee. It’s all pronounced the exact same, so might as well make it easy on them and everyone else and spell it the correct way.
Having a unique spelling does absolutely nothing for the actual name, so what is the point?
Post # 5
I can understand if it is an uncommon name. Mine totally is because my parents came from a different country.
But with different spellings, it depends on how much different it is. My worry is if it’s so different that people have trouble pronouncing it. Another consideration is when this person has to put his/her name on resumes or they have a number in their name (true story, a teacher has told me a mother spelled her child’s name with a 3 instead of e).
Post # 6
I agree. Uncommon names with weird spellings okay. Common names with weird spellings (unless it is after a family member who had said weird spelling) not okay. It makes you look like you’re trying too hard to be special.
Post # 7
“I try to look at it from a perspective of when my future children graduate college and are looking for jobs. Is this name going to look adult and professional on the top of a resume? If not, I’d never consider it for my child.”
If a hiring manager is going through resumes, and 2 candidates have equal qualifications, but one is named “Rebecca” and the other is “Rheebekkuh”, which do you think has a higher chance of going into the interview pile and which has a higher chance of going into the trash?
Post # 8
As far as I’m concerned, you can name your child anything you want and spell it any way you want-completely ignoring the English language if you choose.
BUT, don’t get on my case when I spell your child’s name incorrectly or assume that Charley is a boy and call your child “he”. I work on the phone. I have no idea what you were thinking when you decided to spell Phillip- “Filip”.
Yes your child is unique and an individual. Yes, the spelling of his name makes you look like an idiot.
Post # 9
Coming from someone whose name is spelled the British way and having to correct it constantly, just spell it the way most people spell it. One of my professional certificates that I just achieved doesn’t have my first name spelled correctly so now I have to figure out who to call to get a new one. This is always happening to me.
Post # 10
I hate that it sounds kind of judgmental, but I think it makes people seem illiterate as well.
Post # 11
My sons name can be spelt Keane, Kean, Keean but I actually thought it could cause less confusion to spell it Keyan since thats how it sounds… I like unique names and spellings however.
Post # 12
I work in NICU – and every time a parent has to spell their kids name out because they took a decent name and changed it up so it is more “unique” I roll my eyes so hard my brain hurts.
Guess what – everyone and their dog is changing spellings in their chosen names to make them more “speshul”. At this point – it is far more unique to use the traditional spelling. When you spell Michael “Mykul” it makes you look like you are illiterate.
Seriously, it makes you look like a goof! People will be nice to your face about it, then behind your back the eye rolling and imitations start (at least where I work!).
Post # 13
I think sometimes unique spellins help with the pronounciation of some names. Like one bee said on another forum, Sean – of course we all know that name but it isn’t phonetically correct!
I am considering “Jynette” as a middle name if I have a girl because it’s how it’s said phonetically, not Janette, but with a Ji sound. Plus it is after a grandmother and aunt. If that makes sense.
Sometime phonetical can be good.
My name, though uncommon, isn’t ever mispronounced and I agree, if it will be mispronounced than it probably shouldn’t be used.
Post # 14
I think a lot of the “annoyance” of differently spelled names comes from A) people trying too hard to have a unique name or B) the issues of pronunciation, constant correction, or mistakes associated with the spelling.
Personally, if you want people to say your child’s name as Branden then spell it correctly and not something like Brandyn. Throwing in random vowels or double consonants doesn’t change that you picked a “traditional” name.
As a teacher, it DOES annoy me to see names spelled strangely, when it affects pronunciation. It cannot be easy for a child to constantly have to correct every new person who tries to read their name. It’s probably not as hard to correct spelling when the letters are commonly interchangable (It’s Mollie with an ‘ie’).
Post # 15
I’m not sure if it’s pronounced the same but I think so… my middle name is “Ginette”… it’s a french name, and also my mom’s.
Post # 16
Alright, so let’s say someone wanted to name their child a more common name and wanted to spell it the normal way. Who decides what the normal is?
Like the name Caitlyn, Caitlin, Katelyn, Katelin, etc – that name is very common but I can’t say there is a “normal” way of spelling it. Every Katelyn/whatever I know spells it differently! I think this occurs with many names.