(Closed) "Unconventional" Parts of Your Wedding

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
851 posts
Busy bee

FI’s Best Man is a Best Woman. He’s closer with his sister than his brother, and so she’ll be standing next to him on our Wedding Day.

Post # 4
295 posts
Helper bee

I’m having one of my best guy friends stand on my side. Most of my extended family is pretty judgy about it. I don’t give a crap though ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m planning on wearing converse for the ceremony and reception, and I’m pretty positive my mom will have a field day with that one.

It’s not a big deal with my side, but I refuse to do a dollar dance. Fiance had only been to one wedding where they didn’t have one. It’s very common in his region. I had him on my side about it, but then one of his groomsman mentioned they made $4,000 off of theirs. I’m sure some of our friends will try to start one, but it’s not going to happen!

Post # 5
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

in my wedding we had one maid of honor and two best men.. not odd at all and nobody questioned it….  it worked great.

When my sister got married they didnt have a best man they had a best woman… her ex husband had his sister as is best man.


Do what you like.

Post # 6
2066 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m adopted so my biological dad will join my dad & i halfway down the aisle and help give me away.

Post # 7
1282 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

I’m having 4 honored attendents! They all have different titles and i’ve separated the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor duties between them! Traditional = boringgg ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 8
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

If you ask my grandmas, the fact that we have unequal # of BM/GM and that they’re wearing mismatched dresses is unconventional! Oh, and the boys are wearing suits, not tuxes *gasp*

Grandmas are funny like that.

Post # 9
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had an ULTRA traditional wedding–late morning ceremony followed by a luncheon reception with no dancing, and only Mimosas to drink (and soft drinks and water, obviously).

People didn’t know what to do when our whole wedding was over by 3:30pm!

Then we went out dancing that night in a party bus! And our limo service was like “Wait. You’re getting married, and going clubbing that night? WTF?”

Post # 10
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

We had a pre-ceremony cocktail hour (and a post-ceremony one), which was AWESOME cause everyone already had a chance to have a drink and relax before the ceremony… so people were already a little lubed up and extra happy ๐Ÿ™‚

We also nixed the rehearsal dinner and did a welcome bbq for the whole guest list the day before.  SO fun to get to see everyone for more than just one crazy busy wedding reception!

Oh, and no wedding party at all.  To us, the marriage is between the two of us – it seemed weird to have people standing up there with us.  Our siblings walked down the aisle but then just sat down in the front.

Post # 11
120 posts
Blushing bee

Fiance and I will be walking down the aisle together. My dress isn’t white and there won’t be a veil. We’re being super lax about what the wedding party wears, too.

Post # 12
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had 2 bridesguys! We also had a ring warming and a group blessing. We had 2 pastors that are good friends perform the ceremony. We had a friend play elecrtic guitar solos of beatles songs for the ceremony music. I didn’t wear a veil and my dress didn’t have a train. Instead of a wedding cake we had a dozen friends and family make desserts. I made all the flowers (bouquets, bouts, corsages, centerpieces) out of paper. Hm…. can I think of any more?

Post # 14
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Having a mixed wedding party is becoming more and more common! Don’t worry!

We had a fair amount of non-traditional stuff, but the one I got the most looks/pushback about was having our friend perform our ceremony. Not only is he Jewish, which neither of us are, but we wrote our entire ceremony, half in Chinese, and half in English, to honor the mothertongues of our two families. We then wrote a translation of the ceremony in our programs, so people who weren’t bilingual could follow along.  My dad made a lot of comments about how he didn’t know why we couldn’t have a “normal” officiant like a traditional wedding, but I think that was one of the best decisions we made, our ceremony was perfect to me. 

Post # 15
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ours isn’t super unconvential.

We are having a secular ceremony, which most of my family is NOT okay with, and, i’m having both my mother & step father walk me down the aisle.

Post # 16
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sound fun, good for you! We had our friend marry us in a wig and robe! Do what makes you happy!

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