Post # 1
Fiance and I are having 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen (including my Maid/Matron of Honor and his BM). I don’t have many girl friends, all of my bridesmaids are basically family and very close friends. One of my really good friends is gay and I’d love for him to be in my wedding party. Is it too weird to have him as a brides…what would I call him…boy? man?
I talked to my mom about it and she thinks it’s a great idea, but she loves him and has many many gay friends herself. But others suggested he should stand with the guys to eliviate any of the awkward feelings.
Sorry if this might offend anyone or make anyone feel uncomfortable, I just need some advice. Thanks everyone!
Post # 3
I vote for BridesMan! …and I think it’s a fantastic idea!
Post # 5
Agreed – if he is your really good friend, he should be standing up with you!
Post # 6
Bridesman sounds perfect! Which does he prefer?
Post # 7
I’m having a brides-man! And he’s standing on my side 🙂
Post # 8
Yeah I would just ask HIM where he feels more comfortable.
Post # 9
I think at least half the weddings I’ve been to have had a bridesman. Sometimes standing with the guys, sometimes on the bride’s side (one wedding had a man of honor on and a best woman and that was the whole wedding party). Either way, it was fine.
Post # 10
I have a guy and he is standing on my side.
Post # 11
My very close guy friend will be a Bridesman and The Guy’s very close female friend will be a Groomswoman. It’s your wedding — play by your own rules!
Post # 12
I have a Bridesman amongst the girls… and he’s not gay either, just a close friend. Do what you want!
Post # 13
im going to be a “groomswoman” or “groomsmaid” (havent decided) in my bffs wedding, he is a “bridesman” in my wedding.
he will be standing on myside and walk down the aisle with a bridesmaid.
Post # 14
I had a bridesman, he stood on my side and walked down with a bridesmaid. He dressed the same as the groomsmen. Personally I think it would be more awkward to have *your* friend standing next to your Fiance, unless they were equally good friends. It’s not about gender but about friendship 🙂
Post # 15
My brother is my man of honor and my FI’s sister is a groomswoman…His sister will wear the same dress as the bridesmaids and my brother is getting a suit to match the Groomsmen.
I don’t think it’s awkward at all. I’d just talk it over with your friend and find out what he is comfortable with — for example, my brother is not planning my bachelorette party even though he’s my man of honor.
Post # 16
I think Bridesman sound perfect, and to each bride her own weddding 😛