(Closed) Undecided on whether guests should be asked to ship gifts for bridal shower

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with you.  Even though it’s for a shower, I’d feel funny about having such a notice added to the invitations.  Word-of-mouth would probably be more appropriate.

Post # 4
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We ran into this issue when we had a big shower in Minnesota (we live in Texas). I don’t think anyone gave any specific instructions, but there was some word of mouth communication–if people asked for our address to ship a gift, someone gave it to them. Maybe 1/4 of the people shipped their gifts.

A big part of the shower is the actual present-opening, so a lot of people wanted to bring physical gifts. My ILs drove, so they took some home, but we shipped the other necessities back ourselves. I think we still have some stuff at my parents’ house in Minnesota–if there are things you wouldn’t use right away, maybe someone can store them for you temporarily.

Post # 5
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your hesitations are correct.  As brides, if we accept a shower being thrown in our honor, we must bear the responsibility of transporting the gifts home. 

Post # 6
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think the guests have to pay for ship it across the country.

Post # 7
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If your gifts are from a registry off a store like Bed Bath and Beyond, you can return them all and buy them in the city by you. They will set it all up for you and make it super easy!

Post # 8
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@futuremrsfitz18:  I tend to agree. Plus, I would feel uncomfortable stating anything mre on invites about gifts than what’s absolutely necessary.

Post # 9
986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree.  I would be embarassed if they did that. … I better have a chat with my Maid/Matron of Honor.  I’m in a similiar boat.   I think I will leave it all at my mom’s and then drive across the country for the wedding, so I can bring things back. 


Post # 10
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think my aunt included an enclosure that said something like: The happy couple reside at XXX Address.

Most people sent their gifts, but for those that brought it to the shower, I just returned it to Macy’s and repurchased in NYC.  No big deal.  No way was I carting a cookie sheet and a salad bowl back on the plane.

Post # 11
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My BMs did this, and I was super embarassed. All the guests I’ve talked to said it is fine, though. I still wish they wouldn’t have. I like those who suggested returning gifts & rebuying at your local store.

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