(Closed) Under .50 carat rings & insecurity help!

posted 11 months ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Honey bee

It makes me sad that you would be disappointed with a diamond <.50 cts. Back in the day that was a very normal average size. It’s still a very normal size, but no question, the trend is larger stones these days. You’re young and you’re showing good sense by choosing an affordable ring. As you get older, you’ll have more disposable income and you may or may not decide to upgrade. All this fuss over getting your “dream ring” is silly, and half the people who say they’ll NEVER upgrade wind up doing so. I had a smaller ring when I married at 24 because that was what we could afford. Sure, I knew a couple people with much larger rings. Their marriages were not exactly success stories, so much for big rings meaning your man loves you more. The ring means nothing, it’s just a shiny symbol that has nothing to do with your commitment to each other.

Post # 32
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Bumble bee

When did a full carat become the US average?  wow – I remember when it was .50 ct.

Anyway, first, your ring at D VS2 is exceptional quality, so you have a very nice stone (assuming it has excellent cut) and should seem larger just because of it’s fabulous light return and color.

Now, think ahead to your wedding band(s).  If you go diamond you’ll be adding lots of sparkle there too!  You can stack, have 2 bands rather than just one, get the 2nd one on your anniversary and you can just have tons of sparkle!

Post # 33
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Busy bee

taylance :  Your ring is very pretty! I agree: the D color and VS2 clarity are exceptional. In contrast, my engagement ring was less than half of the budget you quoted, but it was a full carat solitaire with similar clarity and H color. My guess is that the specs plus the halo and purchasing from Shane Co added to the price.

20sparklingyears :  The average is skewed because of larger diamonds. It would probably be more appropriate to look at median. Also, the carat weight may be looking at the total carat weight rather than the center. Finally, more people now have simulants like moissanite. 

Post # 36
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Helper bee

sunburn :  The reason carat averages have gone up is due to greed and vanity. You see these 25 year old couples showing off their $5k, $10k engagement rings and planning their $30,000+ weddings and think they are living the dream. But those who are close know they live in a cramped apartment, just out of school and are spending way more than they can afford. Just look at the average American’s debt (not even including mortgage or student loans) and you’ll know that’s the case. I know some people really are just well off or have well off family but when the average income in the U.S. is $50k and average wedding costs $30k, you know something isnt adding up. So, enjoy your 0.5 carat ring. I understand pressure to be the best in this society but dont be fooled into thinking more is better.

Post # 37
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345 posts
Helper bee

So I’m still a waiting bee but I will be sure to post when that changes – and I’ve asked for a sapphire between 4 and 5 mm (which is equivalent to about .4 carats in a diamond) and really didn’t want anything bigger. Your ring is lovely! The details and the pretty setting are wonderful! Absolutely don’t let anybody say bad thing sabout it!

Post # 38
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Busy bee

taylance :  Which website was this? Have you looked into Blue Nile? They are quite reputable. I just checked there website and you can get a .7 G/VS2/Ideal cut for around 2300. Their settings start at 200 and they have a halo for 430.

Post # 39
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

ariesscientist :  I can’t remember all the specs but the cut is excellent.  The setting, I think because of the sandcasting, is what put the price up.  The designer and Darling Husband were in touch directly and their studio is super tiny.  Our rings were all cast at the same time as they’re unplated white gold and it meant they’d be the same colour.  Using this designer was not the cheapest option but purchasing from an independant craftsman where they’re cast in sand was something Darling Husband especially liked as the sand means the textures are unique to our rings.  The low carbon footprint and environmental considerations were a lovely bonus. 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

anonymousbee001 :  Her ring that they already bought is high quality and lovely. Stahhpp already…

Post # 41
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

hey girl,

First of all your ring is gorgeous. Secondly, listen to this very funny story about ignorance amongst most when it comes to diamonds.

A friend of mine, who is, through family wealth, a millionaire got engaged top her long term partner with a beautiful Tiffany ring which was 0.5 carat. My friend is really tiny, petite girl and the ring on her was absolutely gorgeous but noticably “small.” which prob shocked a lot of people considering she could buy a rock if she so pleased too,

A friend of hers ( who I can’t personally stand) got engaged, larger diamond and said to her in quote “Aw your wee small ring suits you” in a very sly, and condesending tone. When in comparrison her smaller but more significanlty better quality stone is prob worth more than her larger diamond.

I couldn’t beleive it when my friend told me, it was just such a condescending thing to say considering knowing the wealth of a friend and knowing clearly if she wanted a rock she could get one. My friend said ” i couldn’t give two shits is he gave me a simple band, he picked it, he chose to give me this and I fell in love with it” The other girl on the otherhand was more concerned with her size, clearly and it’s sad.

Don’t let anyone make you feel insecure. You chose this together and its a symbol of love first and foremost. All rings are beautiful because they mean that this person chose that to show you that they want to love you forever.

 

Post # 43
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Busy bee

 

mrstodd2bee :  I agree – it is lovely and the diamond sounds like it is of high quality, but it also seems ridiculously overpriced. She has already expressed that she would have chosen a larger diamond if it were in her budget. If she is still within the return period, then it is still an option. Ultimately, it is her choice. I don’t know about you, but I typically prefer more information over less.

Post # 44
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Busy bee

taylance :  Excellent! Ultimately, you stayed within budget and found something you liked, which was the objective.

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