(Closed) Under .50 carat rings & insecurity help!

posted 11 months ago in Rings
Post # 47
3947 posts
Honey bee

nikkiv1313 :  I can’t help but agree with you. Things have changed a lot in the years since I got married; weddings are much more ornate and expensive, just like the rings. I don’t understand it, it seems a lot of money just to put on a show. I guess I’m all about deferred gratification and never expected my “dream” anything at the start of my marriage. I didn’t even have a dream ring or house at that age! Lol. 

Post # 48
136 posts
Blushing bee

Your ring is lovely! I have .50 solitare with excellent specs and I love it. A lot of my co workers who have married five years or less seem to have 1 caret or bigger. No judgment on my part but I personally can’t justify spending $10,000 on a ring. We are saving for a down payment on a house and since we live in one of the most expensive cities in the US we will need at least $100,000.  My man said we can upgrade later but I never will. It is a symbol of our love and commitment to one another and therefore priceless.

Post # 49
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m just wondering why you picked a D color? D and E diamonds have a high premium. I have a G, and even in a larger size it’s plenty white to me, also set in a halo. When we shopped around I could see color starting at the H or I level. For the same amount you probably could have gotten at least a 3/4 ct in a G color?

Post # 51
5 posts

Before we got engaged I told my husband he doesn’t have to spend over $1000 for the engagement ring. We both couldn’t justify spending so much on a ring. We both agree it’s better to save up for our honeymoon instead. I absolutely adored the ring he picked out and wouldn’t trade it for anything. 

Post # 53
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - City, State

kia2019 :  your ring is beautiful! And what a sweet story. I’ve noticed on the Bee that more often than not it seems that ladies have huge moissanite stones. Diamonds are usually more modest in size due to cost. Nothing to be ashamed of! Diamonds take billions of years to form. I think that’s incredible! 

Post # 54
1638 posts
Bumble bee

taylance :  I am color sensitive too, I can pull up a page full of stones from James Allen as an example, and later, I can tell D’s from most of the E’s, and most certainly from the F’s.  I can see it, it’s kind of a nice thing if you aren’t as color sensitive, cuz you can go lower on the scale.  For us sensitives, it’s very obvious.

Post # 55
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

taylance :  Beautiful ring bee! I promise someday it will just get easier. You’ll truly see your ring for what it is, a symbol of your significant other’s love and remind you of the love it took for him to save up for such an expensive gift. I pined for a larger stone for months and am just now loving every single aspect about it! 

Like you, my now-husband and I got engaged young, we were both 21 and still in school. We went to Shane Co together to look at rings and simply loved seeing each diamond up close in person, plus their upgrade policy was unmatched (though I’ve come to realize I never wish to change my engagement ring). I really wanted a quality center stone (I’m also highly color sensitive) and (spending more than I know he could easily afford) he ended up buying my diamond, setting, (and personally selected the matching side stones!) from Shane Co! 

Love what you have, it truly is stunning. And who knows, maybe a future anniversary ring or upgrade may be for you two! 

Post # 57
321 posts
Helper bee

taylance :   your ring is honestly so beautiful and you have a great quality diamond. Quality over quantity anyday and it’s even more impressive that you thought that through being 20! Good for you! Most women your age are all about trying to be boujee and show off their ring and no offense but the people that feel the need to do that are usually the ones that shouldn’t be getting married. Also props for knowing not to break your bank over jewelry when that isn’t realistic for you both as a couple at the time. Don’t feel insecure 🙂 you’re showing such a beautiful sense of grace and maturity. When my fiancé proposed he didn’t have a ring and bought me a stand in until I figured out what I wanted and I honestly would have been happy with the little baby ring he bought me and I still get sentimental and wear it over my actual engagement ring all the time :-p here she is, and I think she is only .25ct or something like that and I got more compliments on her when I wore her all the time than my big ring I have now. She’s way more modest and over time from staring at her she actually looked bigger, maybe cause my love for her grew the more I stared :-p 

Post # 58
24 posts

This is the ring I have chosen. That is not my hand. My soon-to-be fiance will likely be buying it in time for the long Thanksgiving weekend. It’s a 5mm moissanite asscher. I had a diamon once. It now lives at the bottom of the ocean, where my ex (who did not want the divorce) threw it. I knew I didn’t want another diamond after seeing the movie Blood Diamond. I will have no problem telling people my ring isn’t “real”. 


You love your ring and that is all that matters. Never worry about what others might think! 

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