(Closed) Underage drinking at your wedding.

posted 10 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Would you/did you 'allow' underage drinking at your reception?

    Yes

    No

    Other- please comment

  • Post # 18
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I voted other because all of our guests will be over 21. I totally understand where you are coming from with the legal ramifications as I was a server too. I also can’t honestly say I didn’t drink underage at a wedding (but at a wedding at a private home and I stayed the night.) I think that to take the heat off of you maybe you should have your venue strictly enforce rules as much as possible. I would also be very upfront about your feelings- it’s your day and you should feel comfortable with everything going on.

    Post # 19
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @EffieTrinket: nice haha you just made me laugh out loud =)

    Post # 20
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I will be underage at my wedding but we aren’t having alcohol… though Future Father-In-Law has a tendency to bring some in with him so….. who knows?? hahaha

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We did not “allow” underage drinking at our wedding. The exception was my 18 year old brother. This is the first and only time he’s drank around my family, they are huge against underage drinking. My parents were okay w/ him doing it this once because he’d never been to a party like that, and it was his own sister’s wedding. (ETA: Most of his drinking was done at our after party)

    We had a few kids in 15-20 age range and we told the bartender way ahead of time that we did not want alcohol being served to anyone who was underage and to card. If our venue found someone under 21 drinking they would’ve thrown us all out and held our $1000 deposit.

    Post # 22
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Its completely up to my venue to monitor the underage drinking. We’re going to have a few 18-20 yr olds and if they have a glass of champagne I could care less. I guess I’m less concerned because all these “kids” will be there with their parents and are staying at the hotel overnight. 

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee

    Just because it’s a wedding doesn’t make it ok. It’s illegal, and everyone involved can get in big doo doo for providing alcohol to minors. I’d freak out if a bartender served underage guests and just shrugged it off. Not cool at all.

    Phew, glad we wont have to worry about it since we aren’t having any alcohol.

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    That was one of the things that I just let the venue and their parents take care of. 

    I married a police officer and half the detachment at our wedding, so as far as I know it was almost a non-issue.

    Post # 25
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    Newbee

    I’m from–and getting married in–Wisconsin. I would probably turn the other way if someone underage was trying to get alcohol at my wedding, and it’s legal here to drink under age if you’re with a parent/guardian. But liquor is practically our culture.

     

    That being said, if you’re not comfortable with it, or your venue has rules against it, then that’s that and people had better respect it. The last thing you need on your day is having to stress over something like that.

    Post # 26
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I’d only allow 18 year olds and up to drink (which is the legal age here)

    Post # 27
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t think I will have too many people under the age of 19 (legal age in Canada to drink) but really, if someone younger wants to drink, go for it. I just don’t want any drunken mishaps to go on and really, you don’t have to be under the age limit to act retarded..I’ve seen 30 year old men act worse than any underage kid.

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    As a college student…. I think everyone takes underage drinking way too seriously. Most young people have a drink before they turn 21, so I think it would depend on who it was, how responsible they were about it, and how they were getting home. Otherwise, I don’t think it would bother me. Most young family members want to have a drink at a wedding, and since they are with family, it is probably one of the better places to do so.

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted “no” because I would do whatever possible to keep it from happening. However, it shouldn’t be a problem because we’re not serving much alcohol, and for many of my guests, drinking is against their religion.

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We would not be thrilled if we found out it was going on. I know the venu will of course check and we do have a group of children that will fall into the late teen/ early twenties bracket. That being said, if a few that are 21 get drinks for the younger ones, we will not be thrilled at all and to be honest, we will be quite embarassed and annoyed if this occures. Yes, we are paying for open bar, but we aren’t running a fraternity party at our wedding and expect that people will act in accordance with the law or they can leave. Sorry if this seems a bit harsh, but I really have no tolerance for that kind of nonsense and won’t put up with it at our wedding.

    Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I have a cousin who will be turning 21 the month after my wedding.  My brother is 17.  All of our other guests are well over 21.  Since it’s family, I really don’t care.

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