Post # 47
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Bumble Beekeeper
Im surprised that so many people are so adamant about not letting people under 21 drink alcohol at their weddings!
We let people under 21 (and as young as 16) drink at our wedding. Or rather, my Mother-In-Law specifically told the bartenders not to card anyone. Our wedding was in the middle of nowhere in Georgia and all of the teenagers who drank had their parents around and driving them back to their hotels. The bartenders did cut off DHs 17 year old cousin after a few drinks but she had other people getting her drinks. It was not a big deal. Our wedding was a family event in a very safe area with no risk of anything happening so it didnt concern me.
Post # 48
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Helper bee
Even before we deicded on having the reception at the church (with a no alcohol policy), we debated on having alcohol at the reception because of the large number of teenage/college aged people that would be there. Since we both work with the church youth group we have LOTS of underage kids around. As much as we both enjoy a drink from time to time, we didn’t think it was worth it to have it around to worry about.
Post # 49
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Busy bee
WOW! I am really surprised by the responses to this one: It’s a celebration, a special occasion, so I take no issue with a drink or even two by the underaged at my wedding. Their parents will be there too; it’s not like they are going to be unsupervised, or that I am actually personally responsible for each underage individual. Our wedding venue is an all in one deal: cottages to sleep 130, food, ceremony and reception site, so I am not worried about drivers. To answer your other question, the venue requires that every guest sign a liability form when entering the premisis that removes their responsibility from all injury or accidents.
Post # 50
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Busy bee
My parents made sure the bartender carded for legal purposes but we all turned a blind eye to everyone 17 up who got it from friends or relatives. The only underage person the bartender directly served was me 🙂 That being said i made sure that anyone drinking was staying at the hotel and i had arranged for a charter bus for transportation to and from the hotel, so since eveyone was safe, it wasnt a big deal.
Post # 52
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Busy bee
I voted other… I believe it’s up to the venue or bartenders discression. On my wedding day the last thing I would want to do it walk around monitoring who is drinking. Besides, if the venue/bartender serves, they are the ones responsible.
I was 14 when my cousin got married, (I’m 30 now) the first 1/2 of the night before I realized I could get them myself. My parents were there, having a good laugh, and so was her barely legal bf, who was the only one who had a problem with it. Afterwards, she took me to my first bar, it was a small town and she lived across the street. The only time my age could have been an issue was when the creepy guy started hitting on me. Oh and I’m sure my cousins were way too busy to notice that I was drunk…
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