Post # 16
Wouldn’t she be coming out to all the wedding events anyway?
Regardless, I think you should have her as your Maid/Matron of Honor. You can figure stuff out that will work. We are having tarot card readings, going to dinner and then having a movie sleepover night
Post # 17
I have a similar situation! My little sister is my MoH, and she won’t be 21 by the time of the bachelorette party. We’re doing a lakehouse weekend and doing yoga on the lake and all that fun stuff, and we’re not doing bars. Minus travel, the weekend itself is cheaper than a night out usually would be!
I’m very lucky because my mom is funding the things my sister is in charge of, but if she wasn’t I would have gladly helped pay for her dress, the bach party, etc.
Also, I have a childhood best friend who’s “second in command” and both her and my sister know it! All my bridesmaids are wonderful, planning ladies who are almost too enthusiastic to help, so my sister isn’t too overwhelmed.
Post # 18
My niece and stepdaughter were both my Maid/Matron of Honor and they were both 17. I paid for their dresses/hair/makeup and they attended my bridal shower but not my bachelorette party (it was a Vegas trip with drinking and gambling). It was fine. I do think there are some bachelorette options that you can include your sister in, like a spa day. But you don’t have to include her in a more mature bachelorette party if you don’t want to. I was lucky that my other bridesmaids threw me a bridal shower. I think it will work out fine.
Post # 19
She can be your Maid/Matron of Honor, but you should talk to her to see if she is free to help with any duties you might expect a Maid/Matron of Honor to perform. Else you can forgo the option to have a Maid/Matron of Honor and have one of your other friends plan other aspects such as the showers and bachelorettes.
I was a long distance bridesmaid for my sister and didn’t plan or take part in the showers since I couldn’t fit the showers in my schedule. I went to the bachelorette and attended the wedding though.
Post # 20
noveltynose: I was in a similar situation, so I can definitely relate! My only sister is my best friend, so I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. We have always been very close and really I couldn’t imagine my wedding without her as my Maid/Matron of Honor. Luckily, my mom bought her dress and shoes and paid for my bridal shower, so my sister didn’t have to worry about the cost (she’s a college student). She just turned 20, so she will not be able to go to any bars/clubs for my bachelorette party, but we came up with a great compromise together. We are spending a few hours at the beach, then later on we are going restaurant hopping (instead of bar hopping), where we will go out to eat for dinner and grab a few drinks along the way. You could do something similar! But definitely ask your sister to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. I’m sure she would be upset if you didn’t ask her simply because she is underage.