(Closed) Underwhelmed by ring responses.

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

I don’t get a lot of comments on my ring. I think mainly because since it’s not a traditional diamond center stone…people perhaps assume it’s not an engagement ring. Who knows. Just to add, I honestly don’t pay much attention to other’s ring hand in real life so that would be another reason I’m not really surprised at others doing the same.

Honestly it doesn’t bother me. We chose my ring for me and I don’t need anyone else’s validation on it. Never choose something for someone else. Enjoy your ering and the sentiment behind it and try to enjoy your days as they go. Good luck!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Honestly no one else cares as much as you do. Can you honestly say before you got caught up with the excitement of getting engaged that you used to comment extensively on other’s rings? Chances are you didn’t. You should have never gotten a ring just because you wanted certain responses. You should have gotten what you wanted because it made you happy regardless of what others say. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Do you love it? Then enjoy it 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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lurkingvee:  Congratulations On your engagement. think your ring is stunning. Not many people IRL even look at rings. Some of us are just a little obsessed with rings, but outside of people like us, no one really notices IMO. You should just enjoy the ring your fiancé got for you! 

Post # 6
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Newbee

[comment moderated]  Your priorities are way off. Enjoy being engaged. You are marrying the man you love! An engagement ring is a symbol of commitment not a preshus jewl to flaunt your wealth.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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lurkingvee:  Real life isn’t the Wedding Bee. Most people will not care about your ring and if they do they’ll give it a quick once over. You can’t expect people to fawn over it, you will be sorely disappointed!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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FutureMrsBex:  This! so much this! I couldn’t even have told you what ANY of my sisters’ engagement rings looked like until I got engaged myself and even now I still can’t think of one… lol

Post # 9
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Newbee

I just bought my girlfriend her engagement ring. Is the diamond small? Maybe to some. But I know it is perfect for her, it is exactly what she wants, and I have spent months looking for it. It is guaranteed to knock her socks off. And she is the only person that I bought this ring for. I didn’t buy it for her mom, my mom, or her friends. They aren’t going to wear it. If you truly love it, be proud. If you just want a shiny status symbol, stick it in a jewelry box and buy a CZ. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

All you cared about was others opinions when setting your ering parameters?? Really? Smh. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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lurkingvee:  You asked for a 1 carat because you were nervous about what other people would think?

I think you need to stop focusing on others and focus on your engagement. Nobody cares about your ring as much as you so if you love it, rock it confidently.

Congratulations on your engagement!

Post # 12
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Newbee

A well-intended family member said “aww! how sweet”. I didn’t want to hear that. “Sweet” translated to “small” for me. My 1ct was/ is not small! Most of the feedback I got (and still get more than 4 years after getting engaged/ 3+ yrs after getting married is positive. But I usually don’t really pay attention and just say thank you without thinking too much about the complement. 

I know this is cliched, but the only opinion that matters is yours, and it sounds like you love it. Don’t expect anyone else to like it, as much as you would like that validation (as most humans do). Also, it’s only been a week! Give it time.  There will be jealous haters but there will also be people who are envious and supportive and happy for you. Also don’t underestimate how your attitude will impct others’ reactions. So, if you gleefully show it off, then normal, reasonable people will respond in kind with positive and happy reactions. 

Your ring is beautiful!

Post # 13
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Honey bee

Its very lovely

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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lurkingvee: people thought my ring was a heck of a rock and it is less than a carat. 

Though I’m not sure why what people think matters. you will never be happy if you have expectations of people. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Only my mom and a few family members really cared about the ring… and one stranger at a vintage shop once commented on it because it’s an art deco style. But other than that, most people really don’t care that much. 

ETA: My diamond is about .75 carats, which is not tiny, but not all that big, and it faces up small (old mine cut). My grandma took one look at it and said “That’s a HUGE rock!” She kept going on and on about it. I’m originally from a very small town in a sparsely populated and rather modest state where many people don’t rock the huge rings you see in cities (I live in Chicago now). Just goes to show you that everyone has a different perspective. 

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