(Closed) Unemployed and frustrated

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Don’t feel like a failure!  I haven’t worked since last July (I have only been apply for jobs since January though).  So it took me about 6 months to get a job.  In this economy, finding something in a month is nearly impossible!  Just keep at it!

Post # 4
Member
1046 posts
Bumble bee

I feel ya.. I’m having the same problem! I graduated in December as well but with a B.A. and I have not been able to find a job either (well after I left my awesome 40k a year job to be with FI). It is a miserable situation… It doesn’t help that my Fiance doesn’t make very much money (military) and we have a daughter.

We are struggling and I am even considering waitressing. Did I waste 60k and 4 years of my life for this degree? Apparently so. Eff this economy :/

Post # 5
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh honey I hear ya! I spent a good amount of money on my education, I went to school out of state and double majored in History and American Studies and had every intention of going straight into my masters program for museum studies, well finances got in the way BIG time so I thought I’d get a job and save some money. 3 months after I graduated I started working at a Daycare and everyday I hated my life 🙁 I had two freaking bachelors degrees and was making less than my sister who worked at an ice cream shop! I spent over a YEAR searching for another job (and trust me I wasn’t being picky, I was literally not be offered a single job!) and finally found one that’s semi-decent. If I were you I would try to go straight into grad school if you can at all afford it. If not, you need to apply to at least 10 jobs everyday! I’m not kidding, set goals for yourself, make sure you are looking in the right places, etc. Apply to everything just not at the same company. Good Luck!

Post # 6
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98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i’m with you. i’ve been applying for the past three months and haven’t even got an interview.  I’ve got some masters level classes under my belt, a BA in English and my GPA was a 3.94.  i thought that would count for something..apparently not. its extremely frustrating but i’m trying to keep reminding myself that its the economy, not me…

Post # 7
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115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh honey I totally am with you. My fiance got deployed and I moved back to where we were from to be closer to friends and family for the year he’s gone. I have had almost 3 years in marketing and sales and I am having the WORST time finding a job. I’ve been applying for 3 solid months and nothing. I too feel like a total failure and although we’re fine financially I just feel so down in the dumps not contributing when I know we could use the extra money for the wedding. All I can say is hang in there, you are SO not alone.

Post # 8
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Aww — don’t let it get you down. My Fiance lost his job a few weeks after we got engaged and was unemployed for over a year. He got a job bartending but it was nights – he was home all day while I was at work so we never saw each other. It was a hard time but we got through it. Something will pop up – hang in there!

Post # 9
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Like everyone else has said, you’re not alone. I graduated from college in May 2009, been looking for a job ever since, and absolutely nothing has come through. I’ve applied for everything possible as well, whether I’m over or underqualified or perfect for the job. All we can do is keep trying and hope that the perfect job is out there somewhere. Good luck as you continue the job hunt.

Post # 10
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sorry – this is just a bad time to graduate.  Is there anyway you could consider starting grad school early?  It’s a good place to “hide out” until the economy recovers some more.  

My sure you already know this/ have heard this advice, but I’ll say it anyways…  Can you contact the school you graduated from’s alumni office and see if they have recommendations or at least would be willing to review your resume and provide constructive feedback?  In my experience, a lot of finding a job is marketing yourself.  Like for a cashier’s position, I would literally re-write my normal resume to talk about my “strong interpersonal communication skills” etc. etc. and “minimize” my long-term goals and not focus so much on my education (if that makes sense).  I’m not suggesting that anyone lies on a resume, merely make sure you come across as a great candidate for the position by thinking of what the company is looking for.

Post # 11
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1104 posts
Bumble bee

Sounds like a horrible situation! My first thought was that as well as job hunting, maybe fill your days with other tasks too. Is there somewhere you could volunteer? Any neighbours that need a dog walker? Being unemployed is horrible, it’s so easy to lose your motivation and energy so I’m thinking apart from job hunting if you give yourself another reason to get out of bed it might help? Good luck.

Post # 12
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9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I can so relate to you FutureMrsTal, I lost my job in January of this year after I came back from being hospitalized for 4 days and refused to let them worked me 5 days for fear of a relapse(I worked as a CNA in a nursing home that was ALWAYS short staffed), I put in about 10-20 resumes a WEEK. I have had probably 4 job interviews since January, still no job, and I graduated college in March 2010 with an Associate degree in Health Information Technology. My wedding is in September this year, and my biggest worry is not having all the money we need, my unemployment helps but its no where near what I used to make. We just plug away the best we can since we have to pay for the entire wedding on our own.

Just keep your chin up, the economy and job market is horrible right now but something will come along! I take out my frustration at the gym for about an hour a day!

Post # 13
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It took Darling Husband 6 months to find a job…and he has an engineering degree!! Still isn’t employed in his field! He started leaving his education off his resume for lower level/entry level jobs so he seemed appropriately qualified. Now he’s working at Target, but it’s something!

All you can do is keep on applying! In St Louis, a lot of hospitals are hiring. Try even the most unlikely places! Target, Walmart, grocery stores, Lowes, Home Depot, EVERYTHING!

What about volunteering for Habitat for Humanity? A friend of mine did that when she got laid off a few days a week and told me that it was all anyone wanted to talk to her about during interviews. Cuz even tho you have a bachelors in history, if you can get some hands on experience in another field, you could start applying for a broader type of jobs

Post # 14
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2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

If you eventually do want to go to grad school then why not just start now.  Also, not all grad programs require you to pay.  In fact, many will you actually pay you to be there!  See if you can get into a program that offers scholarships, grants, or stipends.

Post # 15
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2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m with you! I am taking the last three classes I need to finish my bachelor’s degree in biology and after that my plan was to complete a teacher certification program. But it would cost me thousands of dollars to do the program and I live in the Detroit area, which means it is pretty impossible to find a teaching job anywhere. Darling Husband is starting med school in June so we’ll have his loan money coming in to pay for pretty much everything, but I still have to keep paying my car payment and start student loan payments, so I’m thinking I’ll just finish my bachelors and try to find a job somewhere. I don’t know, it is a hard situation. Do I complete certification and pay thousands when I know I won’t be able to get a job after? Or do I just search for random jobs that probably will have zero to do with my degree to help us out financially for the time being? Stupid economy.

Post # 16
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98 posts
Worker bee

I’m also frustrated with the job hunt.  I just graduated from a Master’s program and I still can’t find anything (I’ve heard this is the case with everyone else in my field, too).  Since the graduate program was so specialized, I feel like I’m not qualified for anything else and from the lack of responses from applications, employers also think that.  We’re getting back from our honeymoon the second week in August and if I don’t find anything by then, I’m going to have to start applying to big-box stores.  I really don’t want to do that because it’s basically saying the last six years of my life was a total waste, except for the fact that it lead me to my Fiance.  My Fiance has been supportive so far because he’s financially stable but complains that I need to get out of the house more and interact with real people (we were LDR and I moved here after graduation so I don’t know anyone).  He also says that I need to find a job before the beginning of next year because all of our savings will be depleted if he has to pay back my $50,000+ in student loans.  Ugh.

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