(Closed) Unemployed and still planning a wedding…

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I graduated almost two years ago with a BA in theatre and found nothing when I graduated.  I eventually found a job teaching preschool but I found out last week that my position is being eliminated.  I’ll still get a few hours a week, but my first thought when I found all this out was “I’m going to have to post pone the wedding.”  Then I realized this is perfect timing.  I have all the time I want to plan the wedding.  My Fiance and parents are paying for the wedding and he makes enough that he can afford both of us.

I completely understand what you mean about not contributing, but once you’re married, it’ll all be shared anyway.  And now I feel like I’m babbling…

Post # 4
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1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m unemployed right now too. As long as you’re doing fine finanially and you can afford the wedding there is absolutely nothing wrong with it! My Fiance is in the military and we’re going to be relocated shortly after the wedding so I quit my job last month to be able to spend more time planning, with family, and packing (barf). We’ve been more cautious with our money since we don’t have much “fun money” (that’s what he called my paychecks, haha I WISH) It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. A lot of people are having a hard time finding jobs right now. One will come along 🙂

Post # 6
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521 posts
Busy bee

Hey,  I work with job seekers for a living. It is a REALLY tough job market out there! I’m only working part time myself. What I’d recommend is that you treat looking for a job like a full time job and take advantage of any free classes/seminars offered through your state employment office, community colleges, etc. Also, look up the United Way and find some volunteer work you could do…that would be recent work experience and look great on your resume. Which is another thing you can work on, targeting your resume to each job you apply for.

But, hey, don’t beat yourself up for not finding a job right away. It will come.

Post # 7
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826 posts
Busy bee

i totally feel you.. the fiance is unemployed at the moment therefore i have been doing the saving with my part time job while with his unemployment hes helping with the bills and we are tying to save money where we can. it can be stressful at times but we always look toward our future. its tough to find a job right now.. 🙁

Post # 8
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382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree that if you are financially stable and you are just worried about the principal you shouldn’t worry and enjoy yourself. That being said, FH and I will be willingly unemployed a couple months before our wedding and while we’ve saved up a fair bit to hold us over, I am terrified that money is going to run out and one or both of us will still be unemployed. For that reason we are having a very low budget wedding- we are putting in 2k and my parents are covering the rest.

Post # 9
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135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was laid off from my job on Friday and it was very unexpected.   We are getting married in September.   I have filed for unemployment and I have registered for school.   I am going to take this time to finish my degree and finish planning our amazing wedding.

Post # 10
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4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh yes, I’m right there with you! When Fiance and I got engaged last July I had a full-time teaching job. When we gave deposits to our vendors and planned our honeymoon I had a job. Come April I learn that as of July 31 I don’t have a job anymore. Currently I’m teaching summer school and looking for a job but I have nothing lined up for September at the moment. It’s a little bit scary but we’ve already paid for most everything (or put deposits down) so I’m just going to enjoy it!

Post # 11
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Totally with you.  My fiance is unemployed, and has been for months.  I am in my last year of law school.  I’m working a summer internship that is paid, but just found out that they are cutting my salary to $7.25 an hour……

Financially, we are in no position to plan a wedding, but luckily are parents are paying for almost everything.  Of course we are still keeping things on the affordable side, but we are even struggling saving up for a honeymoon. 

Times are tough.  Keep you chin up and hit the job hunt hard!

Post # 12
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m unemployed right now too.  I’m in that transitional period between graduating from college and finding my first teaching position.  I didn’t want to go for my Master’s until I had some teaching experience under my belt, but I may have too next year if I don’t find anything. (It’s too late to apply now.)

It’s been extra stressful trying to plan for a wedding while job hunting.  I feel guilty that my Fiance is paying for most of it.  Though I’ve got good credit and have been covering some expenses (like my dress) with it with hopes that I’ll find a job soon and will be able to pay it off in a couple of months.  It’s tough not having that security.

Post # 13
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We (crazily) quit our jobs and left England just months after getting engaged and moved to Canada with no jobs! We both got jobs fairly quickly and thought it would all be okay in the time we had but they didn’t work out so we’ve both been unemployed for a few months and pretty much spent all our savings. Thankfully I’ve now got a job but it’s a huge worry that we’ll pull enough cash together in 11 months to pay for the wedding we planned. The way I look at it, if we have to downsize, we’ll do it… as long as we get married and it looks kind of pretty, I’ll be more than happy. I hope you find something soon, I know how horrible it is searching employment websites every day and worrying about paying for a wedding but I’m sure you’ll get your lucky break soon ; )

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am currently a full time grad student but am unemployed.  I have applied to over 16 retail jobs, just for the summer until substitute teaching starts again but they aren’t hiring!  It sucks to have to depend on my fiance for money but we are doing the best we can.  No more resturants, no more “new outfits”- expect for bridal shower and rehearsal dresses or excessive spending.  We are almost there, wedding is in September- I just stay postive and look forward to our big day!  Good luck- you’ll pull through it! 🙂

Post # 15
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m in the same boat.  Plus, we wanted to wait to have our wedding for that reason, but we rather pushed into it.  Then, parents didn’t give us much to help and everyone expected a lot.  It is very stressful.  I think just remember to do what you can afford.  It doesn’t have to be cookie-cutter.  We are not eating out, or buying new clothes, or really doing much of anything that costs.  It’s hard.  But it will get better.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am in a similar situation.  I just graduated a few months ago and am looking for a job teaching.  Hopefuly I will have a teaching job in September but meanwhile everyone keeps asking if I have a job yet.  I’m getting married at the end of the month and am really hoping to have a job lined up by then.  I hate it when people give me a weired look when they hear that I am getting married and don’t have a job. 

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