(Closed) Unequal number of bridesmaids & groomsmen :/

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
46647 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MayaM85:  It is not only ok but quite common to have uneven numbers. Don’t give it a second thought.

Your photographer will give you ideas for arranging your wedding party for pics.

Post # 4
38 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve got 2 girls and he’s having 3 guys.  Do your thing! Nobody will care and they probably didn’t want to be paired off anyway.

Post # 5
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Totally common, not weird at all. It’s fine for people to walk alone, or have 2 girls on either side of one guy…whatever you choose! The girls usually walk in alone anyway, so you don’t have to deal with uneven numbers for the processional…most guests won’t even notice! I definitely don’t support asking someone you wouldn’t initially ask just to make the numbers work. 

I was in my oldest brother’s wedding and there was one more girl. This is how we handled it: my other brother was best man, and her sister was Maid/Matron of Honor (i was just a regular old bridesmaid :)) So After bride and groom walked, my brother escorted both me and bride’s sister out, we were the first after the couple. It wasn’t weird because we were all the siblings following right after the B & G. The rest followed behind us in the traditional pairs. People thought it was cool. 

Post # 6
9688 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have 5 and 3.  Wouldn’t you rather have it uneven than ask someone you don’t want or get rid of someone you do want to be invovled?

Post # 7
1420 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Yep, it is okay! I have 5 girls and FH has only 3 guys. One of them is a Jr. Groomsman even!

Post # 8
8861 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MayaM85:  i am having my Maid/Matron of Honor, 2 bridesmaids, and my brother as bride’s attendent on my side (3 girls, 1 guy, 4 total)

Fiance is having 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 4 groomsman, 5 total on his side.


perfectly ok to do ANYTHING you want.

Post # 10
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018


I think it’s perfectly fine

Post # 11
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

it’s perfectly ok! and common! I have 4 BM’s and Fiance has 5 Groomsmen. Future Brother-In-Law (whose the best man) is going to walk with the flower girl (our DD) instead of a Bridesmaid or Best Man 🙂

Post # 12
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Definitly okay! We both started with 6, but his best man had to drop out. I’ll admit I was a little bothered by it at first. Now I’m excited. It will be wonderful! 

Post # 13
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MayaM85:  I am having 4 bridesmaids (my twin sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and my 2 sisters are bridesmaids along with one of my girlfriends).  My fiance is having 7 or 8 groomsmen.  This came about because he has a group of friends from high school that he’s close with and a group of friends from college that he’s close with.

Not once did it cross my mind to have him adjust his number or add people to my party to make it even.  Like another poster said, you can have the guys already up at the alter and have the girls walk down alone…this is usually how it’s done now anyway.  And as far as pictures, I think it looks cool when they’re mismatched.  The photog can place them in cool poses and situations that don’t look too matchy matchy.  I think it’s totally fine!

Post # 14
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MayaM85:  it’s totally cool. Gone are the days of equal numbers of guys and girls. I mean, how often do the two people have the EXACT same number of close friends and family? 

We’re having 3 girls and 5 guys, and my brother is actually going to be on “my side.”

Post # 15
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think it is absolutely fine. I had four bridesmaids and three groomsmen and it worked out great.


Post # 16
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Agree with PPs, I just watched the wedding video of a college friend and I think there were 2x as many groomsmen as bridesmaids…and I honestly didn’t even notice until the montage of formal pics.  I think it’s more important to include the right people than the right number of people 😀

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