Post # 1
So I’ve decided to have my 4 closest friends and my sister as my bridesmaids, so there’s 5 of them. BUT my fiance only wants to have 3 groomsmen, and there’s no way I can tell one or 2 of my girls that there’s no room for them! Is it okay to have unequal numbers in our bridal party? How are you girls doing it?
Post # 3
@MayaM85: It is not only ok but quite common to have uneven numbers. Don’t give it a second thought.
Your photographer will give you ideas for arranging your wedding party for pics.
Post # 4
I’ve got 2 girls and he’s having 3 guys. Do your thing! Nobody will care and they probably didn’t want to be paired off anyway.
Post # 5
Totally common, not weird at all. It’s fine for people to walk alone, or have 2 girls on either side of one guy…whatever you choose! The girls usually walk in alone anyway, so you don’t have to deal with uneven numbers for the processional…most guests won’t even notice! I definitely don’t support asking someone you wouldn’t initially ask just to make the numbers work.
I was in my oldest brother’s wedding and there was one more girl. This is how we handled it: my other brother was best man, and her sister was Maid/Matron of Honor (i was just a regular old bridesmaid :)) So After bride and groom walked, my brother escorted both me and bride’s sister out, we were the first after the couple. It wasn’t weird because we were all the siblings following right after the B & G. The rest followed behind us in the traditional pairs. People thought it was cool.
Post # 6
I have 5 and 3. Wouldn’t you rather have it uneven than ask someone you don’t want or get rid of someone you do want to be invovled?
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Yep, it is okay! I have 5 girls and FH has only 3 guys. One of them is a Jr. Groomsman even!
Post # 8
@MayaM85: i am having my Maid/Matron of Honor, 2 bridesmaids, and my brother as bride’s attendent on my side (3 girls, 1 guy, 4 total)
Fiance is having 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 4 groomsman, 5 total on his side.
perfectly ok to do ANYTHING you want.
Post # 10
I think it’s perfectly fine
Post # 11
it’s perfectly ok! and common! I have 4 BM’s and Fiance has 5 Groomsmen. Future Brother-In-Law (whose the best man) is going to walk with the flower girl (our DD) instead of a Bridesmaid or Best Man 🙂
Post # 12
Definitly okay! We both started with 6, but his best man had to drop out. I’ll admit I was a little bothered by it at first. Now I’m excited. It will be wonderful!
Post # 13
@MayaM85: I am having 4 bridesmaids (my twin sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and my 2 sisters are bridesmaids along with one of my girlfriends). My fiance is having 7 or 8 groomsmen. This came about because he has a group of friends from high school that he’s close with and a group of friends from college that he’s close with.
Not once did it cross my mind to have him adjust his number or add people to my party to make it even. Like another poster said, you can have the guys already up at the alter and have the girls walk down alone…this is usually how it’s done now anyway. And as far as pictures, I think it looks cool when they’re mismatched. The photog can place them in cool poses and situations that don’t look too matchy matchy. I think it’s totally fine!
Post # 14
@MayaM85: it’s totally cool. Gone are the days of equal numbers of guys and girls. I mean, how often do the two people have the EXACT same number of close friends and family?
We’re having 3 girls and 5 guys, and my brother is actually going to be on “my side.”
Post # 15
I think it is absolutely fine. I had four bridesmaids and three groomsmen and it worked out great.
Post # 16
Agree with PPs, I just watched the wedding video of a college friend and I think there were 2x as many groomsmen as bridesmaids…and I honestly didn’t even notice until the montage of formal pics. I think it’s more important to include the right people than the right number of people 😀