Uneven bridal party

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do with the odd bridesmaid?

    Have her walk out by herself before the paired party members

    Have groomsmen #3 walk two bridesmaids / one on each arm (both are

    Have her walk out / assist nephews (ages 6,3,2) before the bride's entrance

    Have FH's father escort her down the aisle, he would then sit, she would stand in front

    Something else

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    How old is she? If she is a teen (more leaning toward being an adult), I’d have her walk with another groomsman/bridesmaid. We had one more bridesmaid than groomsman and did this.

    If she’s on the younger side, walking out with the younger kids would be sweet.

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

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    purenuptial :  how many of your party are related? They can walk down together

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

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    purenuptial : 

    • Maid/Matron of Honor & Best Man together as new in-laws
    • Godparents together
    • older groomsman friend by himself
    • nieces together

    Don’t let a 40 yr old male escort your teenage nieces, no matter how nice and not creepy he is. I don’t think the nieces or their parents will enjoy that

     

    ETA: Can your youngest nephew blow bubbles?

     

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    Sugar bee

    Lots of weddings I’ve been to had uneven parties and the most common way i’ve seen it done is either a groomsman goes down with two bridesmaids or two bridesmaids go down together. Her going down on her own would probably be fine too.

    I got lucky because my husband and I had 5 and 7 respectively, but I had a guy in my party so he went down with the other ‘extra’ bridesmaid. It confused a few people when he walked over to my side though rather than the grooms lol.

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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    After reading your other post, you really need to set some firm boundaries with this Mother-In-Law. She’s a nightmare. 

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

    Can the 10-year-old kind of usher the younger kids (Bible Bearer, etc) down the aisle? I guess I’m kind of thinking of Pippia Middleton holding the hands of the little kids on the way into the church behind Kate. I think it would be cute.

    Also, what 

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    ohana33 :  said about your Mother-In-Law. She sounds like a trip. Good luck bee!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee

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    purenuptial :  I LOVE BUBBLES!
    I’ll have to check with the pastor, but bubbles would be awesome! I know my sister woulnd not be afraid of emasculating her son (the kid wears his older sisters dresses quite a bit), but know others may think it odd.

    Wait… what’s emasculating? (or could potentialy be construed as emasculating) Bubbles?? If guests think that a little boy blowing bubbles is emasculating they need to get a grip lol.

    Bubbles would be cute for sure! I’d just check to make sure he can blow bubbles while walking. I can picture my toddler nephews stopping halfway down the aisle and getting too distracted by trying to make bubbles. (Which would be adorable, but may slow things down a touch 😉 ) 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Since you are so un-supportive of your transgendered sibling, why not just kick HIM out and then you can have even sides? 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    “Wait… what’s emasculating? (or could potentialy be construed as emasculating) Bubbles?? If guests think that a little boy blowing bubbles is emasculating they need to get a grip lol.”

    Seriously. Bubbles seem like the ultimate gender neutral prop to me. What’s he supposed to do, walk down the aisle with a sword?

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

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    wolfeyes :  OP just dirty deleted a thread about how her “sister” (a FTM trans* man) who is living publicly as male won’t grow his hair out, dress up in a pretty blouse/skirt, and go back in the closet so as to not offend the pearl-clutching aunties. I believe it’s safe to say that anything even slightly non-normative will be a big problem in the wedding. I’m not sure how bubbles are emasculating, either – maybe because anything delicate and beautiful (basically, anything not a gun/truck) is “feminine”? But some people have issues …

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    Well, uh, OP’s post history aside, what about just having the groomsmen waiting at the alter with the groom?  Then the bridesmaids could come in single file and you won’t have to worry about pairing everyone up.  We did this at our wedding to solve the issue with an uneven gender ratio (equal size parties, but hubby had a best woman).  It’s also perfectly traditional to have the groomsmen at the alter – folks do it both ways.

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