Post # 1
Future Mother-In-Law guilted me into inviting her granddaughter (FH’s niece) to be part of the wedding party. Really, she had instilled into granddaughter’s head that she would automatically be part of the party as soon as we got engaged because she stood in FH’s brother’s wedding 5 years ago. So… I had to invite her to be part of the party.
Unfortunatally, that leaves three groomsmen and four bridesmaids.
I will have the maids and men walk down the aisle together arm-in-arm, but dont’ know what to do with the odd duck out.
I’ve considered a few options, but don’t know which is best / proper / looks nicest.
I really wanted to have even bridal parties, but FH didn’t have anyone else to ask, and it’s far to late now anyway.
Post # 2
How old is she? If she is a teen (more leaning toward being an adult), I’d have her walk with another groomsman/bridesmaid. We had one more bridesmaid than groomsman and did this.
If she’s on the younger side, walking out with the younger kids would be sweet.
Post # 3
how many of your party are related? They can walk down together
Post # 4
On my side I have
- My sister – Maid/Matron of Honor
- An older friend “wedding godparent”
- My niece (age 10) Very close to her an considered making her maid of honor
- FH’s niece (age 16)
On FH’s side:
- His brother (best man)
- an older friend “wedding godparent” (Husband and wife)
- a slightly older friend (aprox late 30/early40)
The three nephews each have a different “role”
- His nephew (age 3) will be the Bible bearer, and will carry our wedding bible down the aisle.
- My youngest nepher (age 2) will have the title ring bearer, but may or may not make the walk down the aisle, and will not be carrying the rings regardless.
- And my oldest nepher (6 and destructive) who has the title Page (which is really cute when you consider our wedding is storybook themed) I haven’t figured out something special for him. But I love him to pieces and will come up with something special (I think carrying signs is super tacky!) We don’t have a flower girl, so I considered giving him book pages to sprinkle, but don’t know if that would be seen as too emasculating to guests.
Post # 5
- Maid/Matron of Honor & Best Man together as new in-laws
- Godparents together
- older groomsman friend by himself
- nieces together
Don’t let a 40 yr old male escort your teenage nieces, no matter how nice and not creepy he is. I don’t think the nieces or their parents will enjoy that
ETA: Can your youngest nephew blow bubbles?
Post # 6
Lots of weddings I’ve been to had uneven parties and the most common way i’ve seen it done is either a groomsman goes down with two bridesmaids or two bridesmaids go down together. Her going down on her own would probably be fine too.
I got lucky because my husband and I had 5 and 7 respectively, but I had a guy in my party so he went down with the other ‘extra’ bridesmaid. It confused a few people when he walked over to my side though rather than the grooms lol.
Post # 7
After reading your other post, you really need to set some firm boundaries with this Mother-In-Law. She’s a nightmare.
Post # 8
I LOVE BUBBLES!
I’ll have to check with the pastor, but bubbles would be awesome! I know my sister woulnd not be afraid of emasculating her son (the kid wears his older sisters dresses quite a bit), but know others may think it odd.
Post # 9
I know, right?!
She may be one small reason why I’m not taking his last name… I do not want to be Mrs. ____, that’s her name (and the name of FH’s sister-in-law)
There are many other factors as to why I’m not changing my last name, too.
I plan to add his last name as a second last name (so it’s the same for hospital reasons down the road, and if/when we have children, though they may get two last names, too and then they can choose) <- but that’s for another thread…
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
Can the 10-year-old kind of usher the younger kids (Bible Bearer, etc) down the aisle? I guess I’m kind of thinking of Pippia Middleton holding the hands of the little kids on the way into the church behind Kate. I think it would be cute.
Also, what ohana33 :
said about your Mother-In-Law. She sounds like a trip. Good luck bee!
Post # 11
purenuptial : I LOVE BUBBLES!I’ll have to check with the pastor, but bubbles would be awesome! I know my sister woulnd not be afraid of emasculating her son (the kid wears his older sisters dresses quite a bit), but know others may think it odd.
Wait… what’s emasculating? (or could potentialy be construed as emasculating) Bubbles?? If guests think that a little boy blowing bubbles is emasculating they need to get a grip lol.
Bubbles would be cute for sure! I’d just check to make sure he can blow bubbles while walking. I can picture my toddler nephews stopping halfway down the aisle and getting too distracted by trying to make bubbles. (Which would be adorable, but may slow things down a touch 😉 )
Post # 12
Since you are so un-supportive of your transgendered sibling, why not just kick HIM out and then you can have even sides?
Post # 13
“Wait… what’s emasculating? (or could potentialy be construed as emasculating) Bubbles?? If guests think that a little boy blowing bubbles is emasculating they need to get a grip lol.”
Seriously. Bubbles seem like the ultimate gender neutral prop to me. What’s he supposed to do, walk down the aisle with a sword?
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
OP just dirty deleted a thread about how her “sister” (a FTM trans* man) who is living publicly as male won’t grow his hair out, dress up in a pretty blouse/skirt, and go back in the closet so as to not offend the pearl-clutching aunties. I believe it’s safe to say that anything even slightly non-normative will be a big problem in the wedding. I’m not sure how bubbles are emasculating, either – maybe because anything delicate and beautiful (basically, anything not a gun/truck) is “feminine”? But some people have issues …
Post # 15
Well, uh, OP’s post history aside, what about just having the groomsmen waiting at the alter with the groom? Then the bridesmaids could come in single file and you won’t have to worry about pairing everyone up. We did this at our wedding to solve the issue with an uneven gender ratio (equal size parties, but hubby had a best woman). It’s also perfectly traditional to have the groomsmen at the alter – folks do it both ways.