(Closed) Uneven bridal party

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

It’s prefectly fine to be uneven! I would rather be uneven than have someone who I don’t want as a Bridesmaid or Best Man in all my photos. The photographer should know how to place you all for nice posed photos.

My sister had 6BMs and her DH had 2Groomsmen and a jr Groomsmen. It worked just fine.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

In the UK even bridal parties isn’t a thing. The bride picks her bridesmaids and the groom choses however many groomsmen/ushers as he likes. 

i had 5 bridesmaids and my hubby had 3 groomsmen and a further 8 ushers. I don’t think i know of anyone here who has made their bridal parties equal. 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

My wedding party is uneven. I have an Maid/Matron of Honor and a bridesmaid, and my Fiance just has his brother as his best man. I nudged him on it a few times, but we have a (roadtrip-length) destination wedding, and so there’s a friend with kids he didn’t want to pressure and then a family member he does not want to ask. I assume the best man will gesture for the bridesmaids to walk back up the aisle ahead of him. With all the family members in the photos I don’t think the symmetry will be too weird or noticeable. I’m not worrying about it!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I don’t see a problem with uneven at all, in fact you should just choose who you want in the bridal party without thinking about numbers. Initially I chose to have no bridesmaids while my partner has 2 groomsmen.  But now I’ve choosen to have my brother and sister be my bridesmaids (or more onsite support people), so we’ll have three men and one female in the bridal party 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I have an uneven wedding party and it doesn’t bother me at all.  Don’t ask someone to “fill the vacant spot”.  I wouldn’t feel good about being a filler in someones wedding.  Only have those you want up there standing with you.  

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2016

One of my bridesmaids dropped out the week before my wedding. I didn’t get to change the programs and I was afraid it would be really obvious but it wasn’t. Even when I look at pictures, I don’t really think about it because the day went well and it wasn’t a problem. Honestly, I don’t think it matters whether there is an equal number of both. It is more important that the people standing next to you are truly important friends/family and not someone who you picked as a substitute because you wanted everything to look right. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Being from the UK, I never really understood the ‘necessity’ of an even wedding party. I have three bridesmaids and he only has a best man.

Our wedding parties don’t walk in together though- so I guess that may be a factor?

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We had an uneven bridal party and it didn’t cause any issues at all! As others have said, I would much rather have the people i actually want to be there (no matter the number) as opposed to having to fill a spot with a warm body for the sake of being even. I had 4 bridesmaids and my hubby had 3 groomsmen. I wanted the bridesmaids to walk in separate from the boys anyway so that wasn’t an issue and our pictures turned out beauuuutifully! The photographer will know how to pose you. Don’t feel pressured to fill a spot!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I saw the other day…I believe it was through TheKnot, ways you could pose pictures with an uneven bridal party. I’m probably going to have an uneven number. My fiance is going to have 10 total including his 2 best men and I’ll will have probably 6 or 7 which will include my 2 Maid/Matron of Honor. I was having a hard time coming up with another 3 but then again if I have to think this hard then I probably shouldn’t ask those people.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I’ve got 5, he’s got 6. It bugged me for a bit but then I found something else to worry about and forgot all about it 🙂 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Lots of bridal parties are uneven. It’s not a big deal at all. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Uneven is no biggiE. We have the same number, but one of the people on his side is a woman! So 6 girls, and 4 guys in our party (: you do you girl

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

One of our groomsmen dropped out the day of the wedding. So instead we just had one groomsman walk down the aisle with both my sisters. Simple fix, and he hilariously looks like a pimp in our photos so it worked out pretty well. It never occurred to me that we should have posed them differently for photos. As far as I’m aware the photographer simply had them stand the same way he would have were they even numbers and it never stood out to me that it was odd or whatever. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Anthem Golf & Country Club

Mine will be uneven, and we have known this from the get-go! We plan on having the groomsmen standing up front already, and then having the bridal party go down the aisle before me. If we DO end up putting them down the aisle at the same time, we we stick two ladies to one of the men. Don’t think he can complain about that! 😉

It’s your wedding, your show, and you can do what you want! 

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