Uneven Bridal Party Head Table

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

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emkay2020 :  Just do a sweetheart table. Thats what we are doing. I want my bridesmaids and groomsmen to eat dinner with their plus 1’s.

Post # 3
13788 posts
Honey Beekeeper

So, two of the men may have to sit next to each other. Who cares? With the exception of your seats, I’d just assign by table not individually. 

Post # 4
4798 posts
Honey bee

No one cares.


The only people who care about that table are the people who sit at that table and they only care that they are comfortable and that they are sitting next to their loved ones and people they like as they eat dinner.

Post # 5
21 posts

We are most likely going to have 3 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. My solution to this is that we will have a “King Arthur” head table, and significant others will also be seated there. 

Post # 6
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We had 5 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen. At the head table we just sat with our parents, and the bridal party were at another table with their SO’s. I hate not being able to sit with DH when I’m a bridesmaid and didn’t want to do that to our party. 

Post # 7
2318 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

We also did a King’s Table instead of a head table so all our BMs/GMs could sit with their SO’s

Post # 8
30398 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

File this with ” no one cares”.

Post # 9
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

My “head table” is going to be a long table with 18 people seated on either side, and will include the following:

  • Bride and groom (2)
  • My maid of honour (sister) and her husband (2)
  • His best man and his wife (2)
  • Both our parents (6)
  • Grandparents (4)
  • His sister and her partner (2)

This is just what worked for us. We don’t have any other bridal party members.

I personally don’t like the traditional head table that is only the bride and groom and the bridal party, as the dates of the bridal party often end up at random tables where they don’t know anyone. I don’t like how the bride or groom doesn’t have anyone across the table from them to talk to, seems like a wasted opportunity to me. I also don’t like feeling on display though, so that’s definitely part of it for me!

Post # 10
557 posts
Busy bee

we sat with our parents/siblings and sat the rest of the bridal party with their dates/friends at regular tables. 

Post # 11
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

I had three bridesmaids and two groomsmen and it was the seven of us at the head table. We sat ourselves closest to the “middle” as we could, with a groomsman a a bridesmaid on one side, and the other groomsman and two bridesmaids on the other. It wasn’t a big deal.

Post # 12
137 posts
Blushing bee

We did a sweetheart table, which made things sooo easy on the day of. We were served our food first, ate really quickly, then started making our way around to all of the tables to say hello (only got through about half). The photos of speeches are really special because it’s just our BM/MOH standing beside the table speaking to us. Highly recommend!

Post # 13
200 posts
Helper bee

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emkay2020 :  We had very uneven numbers (6 groomsmen and 3 bridesmaids). We made our head table just the maid of honor and her family, best man and their family, and one other groomsman who didn’t know anyone else. Then we sat the rest of the wedding party with the table of people they knew. We just came back from another wedding that had even more uneven numbers (8 groomsmen and 2 bridesmaids!) so they just did a sweetheart table.

Post # 14
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

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cwes62219 :  This is what we plan on doing! I’ll have to make sure we get served first ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
190 posts
Blushing bee

We had three bridesmaids and two groomsmen. Instead of a head table, we did a sweetheart table for us with a small 48” round right next to our table where the 5 of them sat. It worked out great because they were super close to us still but it didn’t look uneven!

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