Post # 1
I’ve always wanted an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. I have seven bridesmaids and my fiance has seven groomsmen. My fiance decided that he wanted to add one more person to the wedding party, which I’m fine with, even though the numbers will be a little off.
However, I just found out last night that one of my bridesmaids won’t be able to be in the wedding, which is super sad since she’s one of my really close friends, but it’s a long story and I totally understand her prediciment. However, now our parties are completely uneven, and I don’t want to ask someone else at this point, since it’ll be obvious that they were asked late because another person backed out.
How should we coordinate this? Will it look really weird to have an uneven bridal party? How will the processional work? When we had seven bridesmaids and eight groomsmen, I thought that the best man could stand in front with the groom while all the other bridesmaids, including my Maid/Matron of Honor, could walk down the aisle as a pair.
I’m probably stressing about this for no reason, but it would definitely help to get advice as to how I can make it work!
Post # 3
I feel your pain – but it will be no big deal, especially with 6 and 8 – you’ll hardly notice! We had 5 on each side, then a groomsman dropped out. I was fine with 5/4 but when we thought another groomsman was going to be unable to make it, I was a little upset about 5/3. He was able to make it, so we’re still at 5/4. However, I think the bigger party you have, the less you notice if there are uneven sides.
Your photographer will know how to place you to make it look best. At the altar, just make sure your BMs stand a bit further apart from one another. It will be fine! At the end of the day, we want our nearest and dearest up there, not props to make even numbers and symmetrical photos!
If you had someone else to add, you still could – your wedding is still pretty far away, it wouldn’t look that obvious (unless you’ve already ordered dresses and had showers, etc. then it might!)
Post # 4
Could you have the extra groomsman walk your mother down the aisle? You could have FI’s parents enter together (assuming they are together), then the extra groomsman and your mother, then the wedding party (in couples), and lastly you and your father! Sounds good to me.
Post # 5
My friend had an uneven bridal party 5 girls and 4 guys which meant one guy just walked with two girls down the aisle! He was sure happy with the arrangment lol
Post # 6
Have one of the extra gm dress up in a Bridesmaid or Best Man gown!!! There! Problem solved! Damn I’m good! Unless he’s really hairy…in which case…maybe not.
How badly do you want the Groomsmen to walk your bridesmaids down the aisle? Could they stand at the altar with your groom while the bridesmaids walk?
Or maybe, the best man could stand at the altar with your groom while one escorts your mother down the aisle ahead of the rest of your procession?
Honestly, I don’t think it’ll be much of an issue. In the past 3 years, I’ve attended/shot about 100 weddings and not one person has ever said anything about an uneven bridal party. If you can’t figure anything out by the date…you definitely will by the rehearsal. I promise. Just breathe…
Post # 7
I’m going through the same thing. We had 5 and 5, but one of my BMs requested the time off (eight months in advance!) and it was denied. She’s still trying to work on her supervisor’s boss, but we’re getting down to needing to schedule hair appointments and buy dresses. It sucks, and I don’t want an uneven party, but it could be worse. It’s not her fault.
Post # 8
We have 6 girls and 9 guys. My fiancee was VERY slow to ask his guys, so I felt weird asking girls so late in the game (even though I keep thinking about it) We haven’t totally decided, but we will probably just have two guys to a girl for a few.
Post # 9
Thanks so much for the advice, girls!
@Pumpkin_Bee, I never thought of that! I love the idea of two groomsmen escorting my mom down the aisle. And @SockJunkie, that lineup also works! Thanks for the advice, I feel so much better! I’m still a little stressed out about the uneven numbers, but that’s just me. 🙂
Post # 10
I have 5, Fiance has 8 and its been this way for a while. I had 4 first then I had three, now I have 5… long story, anyway…. You dont have to worry because everyone does whatever they want nowadays anyway. I am having the guys already at the altar when the bridesmaids are all walking down they aisle. And everyone will walk out on their own accord… no escorting. It was going to be akward to pair people up as we have vastly different body types and shapes in our party… and I didnt want to listen to whining… so I decided at the reception to have all of the guys come in with their own theme song, and the girls too in the same fashion! It will work for us, and saves me the headaches.
Post # 11
I say don’t worry about it!
We had an uneven bridal party: 4 girls, 2 guys. We were supposed to have 3 guys, but one of my brothers passed away unexpectedly 2 months before the wedding.
MY DH’s ‘best man’ was a girl – we called her his ‘best gal’. She walked down the aisle with my maid of honour.
My other brother walked down the aisle in a 3-some with a bridesmaid on each arm.
We only had one ‘traditional’ male&female pairing. Didn’t matter at all to us, or to anyone else, really.
I say don’t stress too much about it. People don’t really care about this sort of thing when they attend weddings – it’s more something the bride tends to stress over that doesn’t matter that much in the end.
Here are some pictures of how ours worked, in case that helps (sorry they’re so massive, also that they’re raw/unedited):
‘Best gal’ on the groom’s side:
My brother with bridesmaids on each arm:
Post # 12
Don’t worry about. it. Pair up two maids with one of the men, or don’t have the men process. The photos will look fine; no one’s gonna be counting heads.
Post # 13
It will be fine. There is nothing wrong with an uneven bridal party.
Post # 14
Embrace it!!! Google uneven bridal party photos- you’ll begin to love it. Theres NO reason to make the bridal parties even.
I have 5 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen 🙂
I’m not cutting or adding anyone that doesn’t need to be part of our day!