Post # 1
Ok. I always thought it was not unheard of these days to have either a mixed gender bridal party (like “best woman” and “grooms maid”) and/or to have more males than females.
We wanted to have my FI’s sister and his two male cousins for my Fiance. And my brother, one male cousin and two female cousins for me. I think all they would be doing is basically walking down the aisle anyway…
But certain people are acting shocked that there might be an uneven number of men/women. And no matter how many times I explain that I don’t think my brother should be honored as someone close to my Fiance (but instead as someone close to me), no one gets it. They keep saying my brother is my FI’s groomsman, and his sister is MY bridesmaid.
I dunno why but it is dribing me nuts! Is this really that uncommon?
Post # 3
No, it’s not uncommon. People are just old school and stuck in their ways. LOTS of people are doing what you’re doing, don’t stress it 🙂 My best friend is having all girls on her side and her Fiance is having his sister stand up with him and his GMs. No big deal. Tell people to stop trippin.
Post # 4
Not uncommon at all. We’re having two groomsmen, a Maid/Matron of Honor, bridesmaid, and bridesman. Your setup makes total sense to me.
Post # 5
I had 6 girls and a guy and a jr. bridesmaid on my side, and my husband had 9 guys. People were like “uh…who is that guy with the bridesmaids” but I didn’t pay attention to anyone. You’ll be fine.
Post # 6
My brother is my man of honor and people have a hard time with it too. I just keep referring to him as my man of honor and hopefully people will get it eventually. When dress shopping I was asked once if fiance’s brother’s wife was my Maid/Matron of Honor (I’m not that close to her anyway) then if my friend of about six years was my Maid/Matron of Honor. I just repeated that no, my brother was my Man of Honor and everyone was like “But the maid of honor is supposed to help you get dressed, who will do that?” …Maybe you guys could step in if he feels uncomfortable lacing up his sister’s corset dress?