(Closed) Uneven contribution requested from BM?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I understand why it rubbed you the wrong way. I probably would have been too but if you’re in the place to be able to afford it I would just throw in the white flag on this one and pay.

Post # 4
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1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Its your sister try and be understanding.  She is probably asking you to pay for your own because you are more aware of her financial situation and she probably doesn’t think you will judge her as the others may.

Post # 5
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9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Id be a little annoyed that you’re the only one expected to pay for yourself, but just mentally file it away and you’ll be happy yo don’t have to pay for her hair when you’re paying out all your own wedding expenses. 

Post # 6
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5221 posts
Bee Keeper

Yeah….. I think she probably feels like she can trust you to know her financial situation without judgement and every spare penny at this point helps. Would I be annoyed? Maybe because it is an exspense I wasn’t planning on but it is hardly worth it to cause stress between the two of you

Post # 8
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@RunningHusky:  I think you’ve come to the right decision. Totally legit grumble, but also if you can afford to go with the flow, do it out of sisterly charity and graciousness. (And if you need to, knock a little bit off the gift you’re getting her.)

Post # 9
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@RunningHusky:  I like that you are learning from her wedding for your wedding. I think thats be best aproach you can take.

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