- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
this is my first post and i have a question for you all.please excusebthe spelling, this ipad is driving my crazy!
my fiance thinks we should have the big white wedding with all extended family and friends. where as i am emotional and no i will cry and just be so emotional and happy that i want to share it with jus our parents sibblings and one or two friends who will be in the wedding party, about 18 people in total.
another reason i want a small wedding is because my mother doesnt talk to a few of her siblings and i barely associate them, and i dont think its fair to be obligated to invite people i am hardling involved with to such a personal day. I know that if i dont it will upset many people, such as my grandma though.
my fiance also has nothing to do with a lot of his family due to divorce, i have never even met his father. and because of this, if i invited all my aunts, uncles, cousins etc to please my grandma and to do ‘what is right’ my guest list will be over 70 people as both my parents have 4 siblings, while my fiances will be just over 20.
so i guess my question and dilema is, do i invited aunts, uncles etc some of whom my fiance has never met and most whom are mean to my mother and whom i dont see to keep peace, or do i have just the 17 people i want there. Another thing is will the difference between how many guests i have nd how little my fiance has be weird?
im in two minds, as some of my cousins i really would love there but feel i cant invite one without inviting them all as all hell will break loose. i would also love to invite my dads siblings who i get along great with, but due to distance rarely see, however feeli cant invite them without inviting the aunts and uncles from the other side.
and finally, i am oinly 19 years old. which i know most think is too young, however i am notnyour typical 19 year old. i have a full time job, as does my fiance, we have bought our first home and i spend most nights at home renovating while others my age party. we also have been kiving together for a year.