Post # 1
As I begin planning my wedding, i am realizing that my guests will be more than double, amybe even triple my guys guests. How do you seat people at the ceramony when one side will be significantly more packed?
Would it be wrong to mix in mine and his guests to not make it stand out?
Post # 3
Honestly, I’m not sure if people really sit by “sides” at a wedding anymore, I’ve never really paid attention to it.
Post # 4
That’s how our wedding was. Just invite guests to sit wherever they’d like. Really no big deal. 🙂
Post # 5
We didn’t seat by “sides” … We just did families by side – so like the first 3 ish rows were reserved for my family on one side and his family on the other side. Beyond that, the ushers sat people wherever they wanted to be 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
Mr. Dragon’s list of people has massively overtaken mine, so we’re not doing sides. We’re also not having ushers so hopefully people figure out just to sit wherever they want!
Post # 8
I don’t think I’ve been to a wedding with designated sides for seating since my brother’s wedding 20 years ago. Honestly, it’s not a big deal anymore. Don’t worry about assigned sides if you don’t want to. Otherwise, if it’s important to you to divide people that way, just accept the disparity.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone 🙂
I have a larger friend and family amount so i will just seat them as i like!!
Post # 10
@ julies1949: I love that sign!
Our wedding is going to be, like 90% my family/friends. My fiance literally has no family except his mom, and, like 5 distant cousins. He is inviting some people from work and of course people who we are both friends with but it’s SO uneven. My mom’s side of the family is gigantic — her first cousins from her mom’s side total, like, 60 people.
I feel kind of bad for him and I was afraid he was going to feel really awkward but he touched me when he said, “the only way to become part of a big family is to meet everyone at some point. what better time than our wedding?”
I would SO abide by the “2 families becoming 1” sign. I think the “sides” seperation is kinda old fashioned.
Post # 11
I think we are just going to tell our ushers to seat them evenly.
Post # 12
@julies1949: I like that sign!
Post # 13
When my time comes we won’t do sides. My SO is the only person in his family that lives abroad. It not possible for many of them to come. I have a large family. Both my dad and mom have 8 brothers an sisters each, so you can imagine the cousins etc. everyone will sit together so no one feels left out.
Post # 14
My guest list is the same way. We are having a very small wedding of about 50 people and I’d say 45 are mine and 5 are his. My family is larger and my dad is a pastor. If I had invited everyone that I wanted to it would have been 205 to 5 since I’ve known people from my dad’s church since I was 2 so that’s why we decided to keep it really small with just family and closest friends. We won’t have ushers either so people will be invited to sit anywhere. My biggest problem is to figure out what to do with my 10 year old nephew.