(Closed) Uneven numbers causing problem for small wedding – any advice?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Welcome to the Hive!!

I chuckled when I read "5 VS 22". My Fiance sees it the same way… we’re having a small wedding as well & inviting only our nearest & dearest. Well, its being held in Vancouver (where I live) and all his guests have to travel 3000 miles to get here so we know a bunch will decline.

Hmm… I think you should talk to your Fiance and see if he is willing to "even it out" and allow for your aunts & uncles to attend. I think its very sweet of you to be so concerned about your mom like that 🙂 You have a good heart!

If that’s a no-go, another option could be once at your wedding destination you plan a bunch of get to know you activities! This way your mom could be introduced to everyone & feel like she knows all the guests personally instead of feeling like an outsider at Mr. D’s family reunion!

Post # 4
108 posts
Blushing bee

Sorry you are dealing with such a sticky situation.  Guest list issues stink!  

I recently attended a small wedding where the bride’s family outnumbered the groom’s about 5 to1.  As a member of the minority, things were a tiny bit awkward at times, but I think the fact that it’s a destination wedding for everyone weighs in your advantage.  In our situation, our family was under-represented due to distance (destination only for us), which was hard for some to deal with.  What helped a lot was the opportunity to meet and mingle during the rehearsal dinner.  By actively introducing us all and pointing out common interests, the bride and groom helped everyone feel like one big family, not his and hers.   

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