(Closed) Uneven numbers

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How many men should he have standing up there? (when I have 4 girls)
    4 groomsmen : (2 votes)
    25 %
    4 groomsmen and 2 ushers : (3 votes)
    38 %
    5 groomsmen : (1 votes)
    13 %
    5 groomsmen and 2 ushers : (2 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I think if they’re standing up with him, they’re not ushers anymore, they’re groomsmen, but that’s not really the point.  You don’t have to have matching numbers…really…you should each have the people standing next to you that you want and you shouldn’t have to cut people you love or add people that aren’t that important to you just so that the sides are even.  Don’t worry about it!  It’s your wedding, you can do whatever the heck you want!

    Post # 4
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

    i think having it uneven is totally fine, and it’s so nice of you both to want to include people. i am a little curious about why he wants to add another friend in addition to the groomsmen and ushers.  i only ask because one of my friend’s husbands wanted practically everyong to be up there, even if they weren’t groomsmen, i think because he didn’t like the idea of excluding people.  she had to explain to him that it wasn’t excluding people–after all they had invited everyone to be their guests. it was more that they had given a special honor to their bridal party members, and there was no need to have everyone get up there.  of course this may be totally inapplicable to you in which case just ignore me! Smile

    Post # 5
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t think it matters how many are on each side of the bridal party. Honestly, I don’t think the guests care, and you should have as many/few as you want!

    Post # 6
    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Do whatever works.  We had uneven numbers. I think it’s pretty common these days.

    Post # 7
    5889 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i just discovered that ushers have to pay for the same tux rentals as groomsmen…is this true?? if so, i feel like they should get the same designation in title

    Post # 8
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m not sure what you’re getting at.  If they choose to rent a tux, yes the price will be the same as anybody else who rents a tux.

    We had uneven bridal parties (I had 4, he had 3) and it wasn’t a problem.  Two of our groomsmen acted as ushers, and the best man just hung out with my husband and chilled.

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