Post # 1
I am having 4 bridesmaids: my sister, two friends, and my FH’s sister. At first he wanted to have his 2 brothers and 2 friends be his groomsmen with 2 other friends as ushers. Then he asked if it would be ok if the two ushers stood up there too. I said fine, I didn’t really care if it was uneven (since techically two of them would really be ushers). Now, he’s thinking of adding another friend. Now, I’m beginning to think this will look weird– 7 guys standing up there and 4 girls (only 3 of which are my picks)… What do you girls think?
Post # 3
I think if they’re standing up with him, they’re not ushers anymore, they’re groomsmen, but that’s not really the point. You don’t have to have matching numbers…really…you should each have the people standing next to you that you want and you shouldn’t have to cut people you love or add people that aren’t that important to you just so that the sides are even. Don’t worry about it! It’s your wedding, you can do whatever the heck you want!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
i think having it uneven is totally fine, and it’s so nice of you both to want to include people. i am a little curious about why he wants to add another friend in addition to the groomsmen and ushers. i only ask because one of my friend’s husbands wanted practically everyong to be up there, even if they weren’t groomsmen, i think because he didn’t like the idea of excluding people. she had to explain to him that it wasn’t excluding people–after all they had invited everyone to be their guests. it was more that they had given a special honor to their bridal party members, and there was no need to have everyone get up there. of course this may be totally inapplicable to you in which case just ignore me!
Post # 5
I don’t think it matters how many are on each side of the bridal party. Honestly, I don’t think the guests care, and you should have as many/few as you want!
Post # 6
Do whatever works. We had uneven numbers. I think it’s pretty common these days.
Post # 7
i just discovered that ushers have to pay for the same tux rentals as groomsmen…is this true?? if so, i feel like they should get the same designation in title
Post # 8
I’m not sure what you’re getting at. If they choose to rent a tux, yes the price will be the same as anybody else who rents a tux.
We had uneven bridal parties (I had 4, he had 3) and it wasn’t a problem. Two of our groomsmen acted as ushers, and the best man just hung out with my husband and chilled.