Post # 1
Just recently something happend and now I have 3 bm and my fiance has 4 groomsmen. Is this okay to have it uneven. I do not want to ask anyone else because I cant handle anymore drama. What should I do? Do you think this looks bad? Do you think its better to just have the people I truly want in it as opposed to just putting someone in last minute?
Post # 3
You shouldn’t even give this a second thought. Save your drama energy for something else. I mean that in the kindest way! The worst thing you could do is add someone for the sake of adding someone. Most wedding parties aren’t even these days anyway – those days are over. Its’ much more meaningful to stick with the people that mean the most to you. No one will notice or care. FYI: I have 10 bridesmaids and the groom has 4 groomsmen. Best of luck!!
Post # 4
I agree completely! NO BIG DEAL!
Just have them all walk seperately or when needed double up 2 GM to walk with one Bridesmaid or Best Man. Our party will likely be uneven too and I’m not even worrying about it. It will look fine!
Post # 5
I’ve seen SO many “uneven” wedding parties that honestly, I never even notice it anymore. I think it’s totally common to have an uneven number of folks on each side. I think it’s infinitely better to have just the people who you really want in the bridal party than padding your numbers in order to make it a round/even number.
Post # 6
No big deal at all! I had 3 girls he had 4 guys..here’s our wedding party picture, I don’t think it looked bad.
Post # 7
I’m having 5 and FH is having 7 I dont think it’s a big deal at all! And for some reason I feel like women always have fewer bridesmaids than men have groomsmen, probably because we can’t play as nice in the sandbox, haha! My FH also has like a million close friends – for guys to be close friends is a lot easier than girls. Less work!
Post # 8
It is absolutely fine. I only have a maid of honor while my fiance has 2 best men. It’s about having the people who are most important to you stand up with you, not numbers.
Post # 9
I completely agree with you all and think it is fine to have an uneven number of bm/gm. However, I had to get rid of one of my bm (long story but she wasn’t being a good friend and whatnot) and my FH thought it would look weird if I only had 4 bm and he had 5 gm. I told him that I wasn’t going to just have somebody I wasn’t that close to be a bm in order for the number to be even so I told him that if he really felt it would be weird to have an uneven number, then maybe he could make one of his gm be an usher instead. He decided he liked this idea better so we decided to make one of his friends an usher (this friend is a little on the the irresponsible side anyway so it would probably be best for him to have a lesser role anyway). So that is what we are going with for now but I would have totally been fine with having one fewer bm than gm.
Post # 10
I think for some people an uneven number is okay. However….I could not stand it. I am one of those people who likes things to be even. Tilted picture frames seem to shout at me.
Post # 11
I am having an uneven number too now, also not by choice. I’m still so mad at my former MOH!!! 🙁
Post # 12
Not a big deal at all!
Just let one guy go down the aisle alone, or have them all go separately (staggered), or else let one of the lucky girls have a guy on each arm!
It’ll be totally cool ~ save yourself the drama 🙂
Post # 13
I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man in an uneven party and it’s great. I either get to walk down the aisle with a man and my great girl friend in his other arm or I walk down with 2 guys. It’s fine and the pictures still look great. No worries and don’t stress.
Post # 14
i have been worrying about the same thing i have 8 and he will have 4 Im still a little worried lol.
Post # 16
It is absolutely OK to have an uneven wedding party. I’m having 5 BM’s and he has 4 Groomsmen so it’ll all work out