Post # 1
So I had a very nice, traditional reception and ceremony planned for a few years from now. I spent a lot of time on here (haha) and had so much planned!
Sadly, my fiance’s health hasn’t been the best. We took a look at what’s most important to us at this time. We’ve decided to do a courthouse wedding now and a cermeony in a few years when he returns to work and is in better health.
Our date is in about two weeks.
Has anyone else done something like this? Whether is be a planned courthouse wedding or an unexpected one? I imagine this is fairly common with military families!
I’m struggling a bit because I still want a ceremony but I have to remind myself being his wife is what I want above all things 🙂
Post # 3
@staciandmatt: Dress up! Make a celebration of your wedding- courthouse or not.
You can always hold a vow renewal anytime it seems right.
Post # 4
This is very, very common in the military- we had actually planned something like this until my fiance agreed that the expense and stress of the “big wedding” was too much and we just scaled the courthouse ceremony up slightly to include immediate family, a family officiant, and a cake.
The most important thing is that you will be getting married to the man you love, just sooner- and that’s a happy thing! And if you’ve already got things planned for a formal wedding, those can stay planned and happen on the original several-years-from-now timeline.
I know there is often some grief given on these boards for people who want to “redo” the wedding later, but I think there’s a world of difference between just wanting two parties and having actual obstacles to overcome, the way a couple facing deployment or illness does. Anyone who loves and supports you guys- anyone who deserves to be at your wedding- will understand the situation and support this decision.
Post # 5
@julies1949: thank you 🙂 I think at first I treated it too casual lol but I am buying a cute dress and having flowers. We want a normal ceremony maybe in 2016 for all our friends and family il
Post # 6
@Bubblesmcgee: Thank you very much for your message! I was, and still sometimes am, worried about what people will think. Courthouse weddings have a bit of a bad rap. Ours for sure since it was such short notice, only family knows right now! I have to remind myself that this is for US and I love my SO.
I’m trying to do little things to make it feel more formal. I originally didn’t care, but I really want to make it feel special since our traditional ceremony won’t be for a few years 🙂 I’m buying a nice dress and my mom and I are thinking of making a cake!
Post # 7
It doesn’t matter what the venue is, just that the two of you are exchanging vows. No matter how grand, or how simple, it comes down to that. I hope you have a wonderful wedding!
Post # 8
@Kimberley25: Thanks very much 🙂 It’ll be nice to have our close family and friends. It’s short notice for everyone since we haven’t “locked” in the date with the judge yet. BUt it’s a good way to see who your true, caring friends are lol!
Post # 9
We did one for immigration reasons. My parents only had one week’s notice. I am so happy we did our reception and said vows in front of friends but our day was very, very special and I wouldn’t change anything. Find a beautiful little white dress and a killer pair of heels and enjoy!