Post # 1
I am starting to plan and since I dont know much about what I’m doing (besides what’s in the books, magazines and online). I have to ask…
Where there any (which i’m sure they were), unexpected expensis that you had to deal with, that are not covered in the books or called out as "part of budget"?
Thanks in advance for your answers!
Post # 3
Tax on everything, mandatory gratuity charged by caterer/service people, gifts for wedding party, the magically expanding guest list, a cake cutting fee charged by the reception site (in addition to the baker’s fee for the cake itself), overtime fees for DJ and photographer (their "package" only covered 4-5 hours which was not long enough for my reception), gratuity for the band, the DJ, the photographer, the florist, etc… And counting!
Post # 4
Be sure to check with your venue to see what you can supply yourself and what they insist upon providing. My sister got married in the Loretto Chapel in Santa Fe, which is a beautiful historical landmark. They insisted on providing their own candles (smokeless, dripless) which were horrendously expensive. Luckily my venue just bans candles altogether. The big lesson is that you can never, never ask too many questions… and don’t be afraid to sound stupid. Hey, its your first wedding, right?
Cake cutting fee was also a surprise at my sisters’ wedding, although when we asked it turns out to be more related to the provision of plates and forks, and the subsequent washing of those… makes a little more sense when you look at it that way. Even though you bring your own cake, you eat it using stuff belonging to the reception site.
We specifically asked our photographer happened if the reception ran long, as 5 hours does seem to be the standard. The photographer will be there more like 7 hours, as he will take pictures of the cake and the wedding party before the guests arrive. Luckily they have said that is not a problem, but it is a good idea to discuss that with everyone involved up front. The venue may also charge extra if they have to keep staff there later than anticipated.
Post # 5
About the tax + gratuity thing… I’m not sure how it is in other states, but in CA, vendors apply the tax on top of the gratuity! So it’s the price of the item, plus 18%-20% gratuity, and THEN you do the tax. I didn’t know that at first and was adding up the numbers separately.
Cake cutting fees were an unexpected expense for us as well… luckily we’re doing wedding cupcakes so we can get around that =P
Post # 6
that cake cutting thing surprised me. also, get all those little things mentioned above written into your contract. this way you know for certain what its going to cost and get no nasty surprises.
Post # 7
Bar setup fees were an ouchy spot! I think it was something like $4/pp for the package we wanted. And that only includes set up and glassware, no alcohol!
Tips for restroom attendants and coatroom attendants I forgot on my initial budget list. That and tips for cake delivery and floral delivery. I know these vendors work hard, but wowie all the tips sure do add up!!
Post # 8
Oh, and some places charged extra for linens, dishes, and silverware. Gotta love that.
Post # 9
It wasn’t "unexpected" but I did forget to add it into the budget – and that was postage. I didn’t (and couldnt’t have) known the actual mailing cost with out having it weighed at the local post office. What I thought it would be, wasn’t right and we ended up having to add a significant amount to buy the stamps.
Not to mention the return stamp for the RSVP…don’t forget that!
Post # 10
Stamps – RSVP, invite & TY’s
Manicure/Pedicure before wedding
Post # 11
Fees for valet parking attendants at the reception site.
All the decorations–lanterns, candles, guestbook, etc–these were not unexpected, but they were a lot more than I thought they would be.
The cost of postage was a surprise–I’ve never spent that much in one visit to the post office, not even at Christmas!
I’ve decided at the last minute that I want the hair person and the makeup person to travel from the hotel to the wedding site with us to do last minutes touchups; this will result in overtime charges.
Undergarments. Seriously, I didn’t budget for these, but I bought frou-frou undergarments which I will likely never wear again (it’s not like they’re comfortable for work wear :-), not to mention pretty lingerie (we are not really a lingerie couple, either me wearing or he appreciating). I may eventually spring for Spanx, too, depending on how that workout schedule goes….
Post # 12
Definitely TAX!!!!! (for catering its $500+!!!)
Also I totally forgot to include the honeymoon in our budget OUCH!!!! ( I thought my FH was going to take of it, he has a zillion hotel points )
As for cake cutting, I’ve read in several books that this is a joke and that you should refuse to pay the cater to do something that is their JOB. The caters I have been talking to say the same thing.
Post # 13
This is gonna be a long list: Tax, Gratuity, cake cutting fee, delivery fees, undergarments (special bras, spanx, petticoats), jewelry, corkage fees, makeup (the ones I bought to try), manicure/pedicure, cake cutters, cake topper, chair covers, DIY tools……etc…
Post # 14
This post is SO true and making me a bit sad….
I’d like to add HOTELS on there as well! Staying in one the night before the wedding, then the wedding night…adds up quick..then if you are picking anyone elses tabs up…..adds up quick!
Post # 15
All of the above AND: Wedding Bands.
Many people do not budget for this – and they can be pretty pricey depending on what you want!
Post # 16
If you’re having an open bar, make sure to budget MORE than you think your guests will drink in this area because you don’t really have any control over the price of this item. Do NOT budget conservatively in this area because if your guests end up drinking quite a bit, then you may have a larger-than-expected bill to pay by several hundred dollars. Better to budget too much and then have some wiggle room left in the budget at the end.