Post # 1
As I’ve posted on the forum before, my honey and I planned on using my beautiful 18k engagement band as my wedding ring. Last night his grandmother gave us a pair of matching wedding bands. FH’s family is East Asian so following their tradition, the bands are 24k yellow gold. His grandmother is truly a kindred spirit and I love her as though she were my own grandma so having the ring as a blessing on our marriage means the world to me.
I REALLY want to wear both on my ring finger but fear my 18k ring damaging the 24k ring over time. Has anyone had good luck wearing a 24k spacer? The idea would be that the 18k ring would, over time, wear at the spacer ring which is of no sentimental value. I am prepared to replace the spacer band a regular intervals over time.
**Before everyone mentions how soft 24k gold is, I know. Most of the generation one above ours in FH’s family wear 24k wedding bands and other jewelry so I see first hand how soft the metal is. The way wedding bands and other rings are made is that the ring isn’t complete but rather has two overlapping arms which allow the person to reshape and resize the ring. My FFIL has worn his band made in the same way for decades, having it reshaped once a year.
Post # 2
I wore a 24k gold promise ring for a few years when I was a teenager. I didn’t wear it against other rings, of course, but I also never noticed it changing shape over time.
Post # 3
Even with 18k gold – it’s soft. My ering is 2 1/2 months old and has a big scratch, a tiny dent, and a few tiny scratches… Breaks my heart.
Post # 4
I don’t know that I would be worried about the 18K gold damaging the 24k gold– I’d be more worried if there were diamonds on your ering that could potentially touch the 24k- that would be a mess. And in general– you already know it’s just very prone to scraches, etc.
I have a RHR that’s 18k- and I used to wear it everyday. It had big dents- soft dents….BUT I even wore whilt touching sand paper all the time- so I will admit the 18k held up slightly better than I would have imagined.
My suggestion– all the scratches and whatnot you will get on your band- look at them like the path of your relationship. I used to be so worried about my rings (both 14k gold) but now I don’t even flinch and wear them all the time (excpet right now because I’m pregnant and they dont’ fit)-
Post # 5
I’m not too sure 24k gold is meant to be worn on a day to day basis. My in-laws are Asian and we got 24k gold as well but it sits in a safety deposit box. I think it’s more about value and tradition than actual wear.
I’d really be wary of the extreme softness on the gold.