(Closed) Unexpectedly engaged! And not sure where to start!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@sheltervet:  First step: set a budget!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Hey there! We’re month twins! <3

Agree with PP, and also…

SHOP VENUES. NOW. 😉

My date wasn’t flexible, and I assume if you’ve ‘set’ your date, yours isn’t either. We started looking for venues a month ago, and just booked a couple of weeks ago, BUT if you’re not flexible on your date, it can limit your options if another couple has already booked your venue for that day.

SO. That would be my advice to you, just from personal experience. Even booking ours ten months out, a couple of the venues we liked were just simply not available for our day because someone else snatched them up first.

So I’d get on a venue first thing. 🙂 I felt so much more relaxed once we got the venue/catering taken care of.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Congrats!

@love108:  agreed!  Set the overall budget then look at a website that gives you the average percentage people spend on each part off the wedding to give you an idea of where to start for venues, photographer, flowers, etc.

then Start looking at venues and photographers.  Those were at the top of my list and tend to book fast!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Congrats! That is a beauty of a ring. My advice is to find a location that works for you and your mom and go dress shopping. Set up 2-3 appointments with the goal of finding an amazing dress you love, not the best dress or the perfect dress. It made it so much easier not to worry about finding the best, just an awesome one I loved wearing.

The first thing I would do is work on budget. What is the total amount you can afford and who do you want there. Then figure out when works. Then nail down a venue. Keep in mind that you want great, awesome, and wonderful, not perfect or the best. You don’t have to check out everything, just find something you love.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

get one of those budget organizers for starters and then start searching the net for inspirations

perhapes your mom could fly out or you fly back to NY for a dress 

 

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

……..oh ya and  if traveling is to pricey you could ask your Mom to help pick dresses fom a website and when you try on dresses take a picture and then send her the pictures for her to see and she can help pick…..

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Absolutely agree with everyone above-getting your venue squared away is step 1 after getting a budget together. And you should definitely fly to NY to look at dresses if you can . .SO many more options! And you could go to Kleinfelds- I’m a Say Yes to the Dress fan and that would be so awesome! I don’t know if you are though. Beautiful ring! Congrats

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@SherylAA:  Agree! I drove 6 hours, my bridesmaid drove 5, and my mom and sister drove 4 hours all so we could pick out a dress with my grandmother and godmother. There was one weekend in my 16 month engagement that would work for all of us. For us, it was worth it and it meant the world to my grandmother (she has severe crippling of the spine and I have never seen anyone hobble up a spiral staircase so fast (the place was handicap accessible when my mom got her dress there 27 years ago, it isn’t now) I felt horrible that she was in pain for the next week). We met in Scranton because it worked well for all of us. Sometimes thinking outside the box can save a ton of money and it means so much to the women in your lives.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Congratulations, your ring is stunning!

I would join Pinterest, it’s a great place to start envisioning what you want for yuur wedding!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@sheltervet:  Our venue will guarantee a place through 2014 if you book now, so for state side receptions it shouldn’t matter.

Don’t go to Kleinfelds on a budget, the least expensive dress in $1500. You can get lots of great places with more budget friendly dresses. Most places can get a Saturday appointment on a week’s notice– we got two on 5 days notice.

Destination weddings tend to be more set in their prices, but they also are cheaper than a regular wedding. I don’t think you’ll have problems finding them.

The way we approached the budget was talking to each set of parents about wedding plans. We were honest in asking them what was important to them and what they wanted. FI’s parents were quick to offer the rehearsal dinner and said that a big, Catholic wedding was important to them (they have a huge family), but that it was my day. My parents said that they would support whatever I wanted, but would like a Catholic wedding with all aunts, uncles, and cousins under 18 invited. They would gift me $X to offset the cost of the reception and would be okay with whatever location. We didn’t frame the conversation in money terms, but instead about what they wanted for the day.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I should think that having a Wednesday wedding should help keep your venue options open, and it might even be a little cheaper.

Venues here IN the states actually charge significantly less most of the time for a non-Saturday wedding, so I would think that a lot of Destination Wedding venues would probably mirror that.

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