Post # 1
Wow. My boyfriend proposed over memorial day weekend when we took a trip to one of my favorite places in the world (the Huntington Gardens). He planned the most amazing day – proposed by one of my favorite and sentimental areas in the gardens but flew a friend and professional photographer in to record the event AND do an exclusive engagement photo shoot in the Gardens after hours (so we had the whole place to ourselves!). To top that, he had my parents at the restaurant waiting for us for a celebratory dinner (my parents live in NY, we are in CA!) and had the photographer record that surprise as well. What a day!
The funniest thing is that I refused to look at the ring until about a half hour after he proposed when someone asked to see it. It is ridiculous! So simplistic and beautiful. He went overboard (IMO), but did so to have the carat weight = our wedding date, which is beyond thoughtful and really makes the ring that much more sentimental! Here’s a glimpse…poor lighting (I apologize!)
Now here I am, in less than 2 weeks I will begin my 4th year of vet school (clinical rotations) during which my time will be sparse and I have no idea where to begin – especially since:
1) we want a non-US destination wedding (and perhaps a US reception afterwards)
2) my parents are in NY and my mom really wants to go dress shopping with me
3) like so many other couples, money is tight.
4) time is very limited.
Any tips / ideas?
Post # 3
@sheltervet: First step: set a budget!
Post # 4
Hey there! We’re month twins! <3
Agree with PP, and also…
SHOP VENUES. NOW. 😉
My date wasn’t flexible, and I assume if you’ve ‘set’ your date, yours isn’t either. We started looking for venues a month ago, and just booked a couple of weeks ago, BUT if you’re not flexible on your date, it can limit your options if another couple has already booked your venue for that day.
SO. That would be my advice to you, just from personal experience. Even booking ours ten months out, a couple of the venues we liked were just simply not available for our day because someone else snatched them up first.
So I’d get on a venue first thing. 🙂 I felt so much more relaxed once we got the venue/catering taken care of.
Post # 5
@love108: agreed! Set the overall budget then look at a website that gives you the average percentage people spend on each part off the wedding to give you an idea of where to start for venues, photographer, flowers, etc.
then Start looking at venues and photographers. Those were at the top of my list and tend to book fast!
Post # 6
Congrats! That is a beauty of a ring. My advice is to find a location that works for you and your mom and go dress shopping. Set up 2-3 appointments with the goal of finding an amazing dress you love, not the best dress or the perfect dress. It made it so much easier not to worry about finding the best, just an awesome one I loved wearing.
The first thing I would do is work on budget. What is the total amount you can afford and who do you want there. Then figure out when works. Then nail down a venue. Keep in mind that you want great, awesome, and wonderful, not perfect or the best. You don’t have to check out everything, just find something you love.
Post # 7
get one of those budget organizers for starters and then start searching the net for inspirations
perhapes your mom could fly out or you fly back to NY for a dress
Post # 8
……..oh ya and if traveling is to pricey you could ask your Mom to help pick dresses fom a website and when you try on dresses take a picture and then send her the pictures for her to see and she can help pick…..
Post # 9
Absolutely agree with everyone above-getting your venue squared away is step 1 after getting a budget together. And you should definitely fly to NY to look at dresses if you can . .SO many more options! And you could go to Kleinfelds- I’m a Say Yes to the Dress fan and that would be so awesome! I don’t know if you are though. Beautiful ring! Congrats
Post # 10
Thanks so much for the suggestions so far! Keep them coming!
I am not sure whether I am going to be able to go dress shopping in NY while I’m in clinics. I am, however, flying back to NY this weekend for a friend’s wedding. I’m not sure it’s a good idea to go dress shopping so soon, if I have no idea what I want. Thoughts? (Plus, I can’t imagine getting into somewhere like Kleinfeld’s with a day’s notice!)
Also, the date is a Wednesday. Clearly not traditional. If we’re interested in a destination wedding, is a Wednesday a date that is likely to fill up fast?
I’d definitely like to get a venue squared away, but I’ve found it difficult to get an idea of some international venues from photos (or rather, without sufficient photos). Are there any places I can look for destination-wedding specific info?
I am guessing we should also figure out a place for the US reception too. I’m just hoping places don’t charge “wedding” prices since it’s bound to be months after the actual wedding.
Thanks again! I definitely need to get a budget figured out. We haven’t asked our parents and won’t accept money from them if they are going to manipulate or control the situation in any way.
Post # 11
@SherylAA: Agree! I drove 6 hours, my bridesmaid drove 5, and my mom and sister drove 4 hours all so we could pick out a dress with my grandmother and godmother. There was one weekend in my 16 month engagement that would work for all of us. For us, it was worth it and it meant the world to my grandmother (she has severe crippling of the spine and I have never seen anyone hobble up a spiral staircase so fast (the place was handicap accessible when my mom got her dress there 27 years ago, it isn’t now) I felt horrible that she was in pain for the next week). We met in Scranton because it worked well for all of us. Sometimes thinking outside the box can save a ton of money and it means so much to the women in your lives.
Post # 12
Congratulations, your ring is stunning!
I would join Pinterest, it’s a great place to start envisioning what you want for yuur wedding!
Post # 13
@sheltervet: Our venue will guarantee a place through 2014 if you book now, so for state side receptions it shouldn’t matter.
Don’t go to Kleinfelds on a budget, the least expensive dress in $1500. You can get lots of great places with more budget friendly dresses. Most places can get a Saturday appointment on a week’s notice– we got two on 5 days notice.
Destination weddings tend to be more set in their prices, but they also are cheaper than a regular wedding. I don’t think you’ll have problems finding them.
The way we approached the budget was talking to each set of parents about wedding plans. We were honest in asking them what was important to them and what they wanted. FI’s parents were quick to offer the rehearsal dinner and said that a big, Catholic wedding was important to them (they have a huge family), but that it was my day. My parents said that they would support whatever I wanted, but would like a Catholic wedding with all aunts, uncles, and cousins under 18 invited. They would gift me $X to offset the cost of the reception and would be okay with whatever location. We didn’t frame the conversation in money terms, but instead about what they wanted for the day.
Post # 14
I should think that having a Wednesday wedding should help keep your venue options open, and it might even be a little cheaper.
Venues here IN the states actually charge significantly less most of the time for a non-Saturday wedding, so I would think that a lot of Destination Wedding venues would probably mirror that.