Post # 1
I am a bridesmaid in my BFF from college and beyond wedding in July. Our Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses arrived yesterday – they were shipped to each of us (4 BMs) because we are scattered around the country. And – it’s awful. Really awful. The dress seems cheaply made (Mori Lee), the color is hideous (it’s supposed to be bright pink – wasn’t thrilled about that to start with – but hey it’s her day; however the color is more an awful pink/purple that’s indescrible), and it is not attractive on any of us. (We chatted last night and to a person no one is thrilled with the dress.)
We love our friend. She asked me if the dress was ugly and I didn’t know what to say. I told her it was bright and that it wasn’t flattering on me but that I’d have it worked on. But what we’d really like is to start over – and we’re all willing to cough up another $200 for a dress that is nicer, more attractive and won’t have people pointing at us and laughing.
What should we do?
Post # 3
Can you post a pic? I think I need to see it to know just how bad “bad” is.
Post # 3
Suck it up, it is your friends day and if she likes the dress than you wear the dress.
Post # 4
I’d just wear the dress. I’d rather do that than spend even more money on another dress anyway lol. It’s just one day and then you can burn it if you want to.
Post # 5
It’s one day, you’re going to wear it for a few hours. Just do it.
Post # 6
@Sassygrn – I don’t know that she will like the dress. I’m going to visit next weekend and I’ll take it so she can see if person. She picked the dress out – no one tried it on because the store didn’t have it. She picked the color based on a swatch and not a full dress. I’m just asking what to say if she asks in person what we think…..
I’ll suck it up and wear it if she wants but she is a basket case over a million other things I’m afraid this may send her over the edge.
Post # 7
Unfortunately I think you need to suck it up and not stress the bride out over this. Did none of you try it on before hand?? If you didn’t like it when you tried it on it would have been better to mention it then. But now that it’s all said and done I think you’re stuck with it. Sorry. 🙁
ETA: Sorry I posted at the same time that you did… I see that you were not able to try the dress on ahead of time. I have no good advice for you on this one other than you just have to deal with it….
Post # 8
though i agree with the other posters, if its THAT bad i would want to know – especially if ALL my BM’s are saying how they dont like it. I mean if you are willing to fork up the additional cash i dont see how it could hurt,
did any of you guys try them on before buying?
Post # 9
I would just wear it and deal with it. Your friend is probably under enough stress planning the wedding and doesn’t need one more thing to worry about. Plus, people are going to be paying attention to the bride, not pointing and laughing at her bridesmaids.
Post # 10
Hopefully when she sees it on you she’ll feel the same way you all do. But if it turns out it’s exactly what she had in mind, wear it and smile through the fashion agony.
Post # 11
If everyone think they are ugly that could actually be the source of some good laughs that day. I was in a wedding where we all ended up with the same HORRIBLE hair do, and we still laugh about it. I’d say take it and run with it! (Without insulting the bride, of course).
Post # 12
I agree with linguo…I would try the dress on and if she loves it, I would just suck it up and wear it. However, if it’s not the look she was going for, definitely offer to try some different dresses on and cover the cost.
Post # 13
At least it’s not this:
But I agree – we need a picture of this dress!
Post # 14
I am so sorry.
I suggest trying it on for her and when she asks you what you think of it, just let her know it is not your favorite, but for her you will wear it with a smile 🙂
Post # 15
If all of you are willing to buy another dress, I would all go to a national chain like David’s and try on some dresses. If you can find one that all of you agree on and are willing to spend money on in the color that the bride likes, then and only then would I approch the bride and tell her you aren’t happy but have come up with an alternative. If I was the bride, I would be so mad that my Bridesmaid or Best Man were unhappy. But don’t add one more thing to her plate. Find the solution first, then approach her with the problem already solved.