(Closed) Unfortunately we will have to respectfully rescind your invitation…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@cruzan1978: though new to all of this, I think what you’re doing is above and beyond your call. And if they haven’t gotten it… I  mean…  I would send it. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Will their name have to be verified on a list? I don’t know if I’d send something on top of your effort already. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

instead of saying that you are rescinding the invitation, tell them that their lack of response is considered a ‘no’ and that you will not be reserving a seat for them…. 

 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@cruzan1978: I would phrase it as. Hi ____! We need the give the caterer our final headcount. If I don’t hear from you by Friday at 2, I’ll put you down as a no. Best, Cruzan

 

It gets the point across. I think “rescinding an invite” may cause unnecessary drama. I’m sure you’re annoyed, but I would just take the high road on this one. You have more important things to worry about.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If they can’t figure out how to RSVP, then consider them as not showing up.  I wouldn’t bother sending out a notice.  If they do end up showing up they will realize what an idiot they are for not RSVP-ing.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve never heard of “rescinding” an invitation to anything due to someone not responding.  If they haven’t responded, I would take it as them not coming, especially since you’ve tried to get in touch with them several ways/times and have had no response.  If you happen to get a late RSVP and you’ve already given your final numbers to your venue, only THEN would I let them know (politely) that unfortunately you’ve already reserved and can’t add.  However, if your venue allows you to add a few people, I definitely would.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

@MidwestBride2012: I 110% agree with this. Do not write “rescind the invite” because that may cause drama (although I totally get how annoyed you must be)!

Post # 10
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309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’d just consider them a “no” and move on. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@MidwestBride2012: I like that wording too.  It’s the same thing, but a little less inflammatory.

I think you’re in the right, though.  People who cannot bother to take 2 minutes to RSVP will need to face the consequences of being counted as a no.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think saying you have to “rescind their invitation” is kind of rude. I understand that they’re also being incredibly rude by not responding, but if you feel it’s necessary to mail them a notice, I would phrase it differently. Just tell them your final headcount is due and your venue has very strict rules about extra people, so since you haven’t received a response, you’ll have to consider them as not attending.

Obviously, you’ll want to make it more eloquent than that. I mean, honestly, I wouldn’t even waste a stamp to send a letter informing them of the circumstances. But my venue is more laidback so I don’t have that aspect to worry about.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I agree with PPs “rescinding the invite” is harsh but people need to know that since they didn’t bother to respond to your REPEATED attempts to contact them that you cannot save them a seat.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i wouldnt say “rescind their invitation” – its their lack of response that means you have to treat them as a decline

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I tell myself, If they don’t say Yes by the given date, then its a no.

People who want to be there will make sure they contact you. Even the most busy and forgetful person should feel obliged after being asked twice ( facebook, calls, etc)

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