(Closed) Ungrateful guests – have you ever considered calling off the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll:
    I've gotten stressed & thought about cancelling the wedding/reception (considered courthouse/elope) : (38 votes)
    48 %
    Contemplated just having a small wedding with family : (22 votes)
    28 %
    Never, every moment of planning has been enjoyable : (19 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
    748 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No, but my friends aren’t self absorbed jerks either. I’m pretty blunt with my friends, if he was that rude I’d say something snarky to him. Or not invite him.


    Post # 4
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    He sounds like a real jerk. I can’t imagine thinking, let along saying, things like that about someone’s wedding. Don’t let him get you down.. Your wedding will be lovely.

    Post # 5
    670 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    That guy is a tool! Don’t let him ruin your wedding planning!

    Post # 6
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Fuck that guy and his horrible attitude.

    I, for one, would LOVE to come to your cocktail hour.

    And two, he’s still a dick.

    Post # 7
    632 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    He sounds like an ass.


    But for real, coctail hours here are like a luxury. Certainly not looked down upon like this “friend” described

    Post # 9
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would start feeding him just total BS about your wedding.  “It’s going to be a Cats theme, like the musical.  We’re giving the guests lolcat posters for favors, and there will be a tuna bar.”  “We’re having a wading pool with penguins and seals out front.  I think the kids will love it; oh yeah, we’ve invited all of the kids in town, because we think it will cheer them up to go to a wedding.”  “It was expensive, but we managed to secure some elephants for our grand entrance.”

    Or more believable BS.  “Our theme is love so each guest is going to get a heart-shaped pillow that says ‘I love you,’ when you punch it.  Our waitstaff will be dressed up as cupids, but classy cupids…they’ll be wearing suits but have wings and bows and arrows.  Maybe they’ll have classy diapers on the outside of their outfits, we can’t decide.” 

    Because seriously.  Screw him.  Cocktail hours are amazing, and elegant. 

    Post # 10
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @HappierKate:  Yes! YES! YES! You have so got to do this! He sounds like a real dick, and I’m not sure why you would want someone like that at your wedding.

    I went through pretty similar stuff when planning my wedding – we’re still about six months away from the actual wedding, and I’ve just flat-out stopped discussing it with people who either don’t need to know, or I know will be negative. Basically, only our bridal party and immediate families know what we have planned, and even then we try to keep it at a need-to-know basis, otherwise they (particularly his family) start getting pushy with their vision of what we should do.

    Post # 11
    1284 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Don’t let that guy get to you…. some people are just going to be that way!

    Post # 12
    255 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He sounds like an idiot! He doesn’t represent the rest of your guests? Ignore him anod carry on

    Post # 13
    1935 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @HappierKate:  Uhmmm I second this. The more outrageous, the better. 

    Post # 14
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    He kind of sounds like kind of a pompous douche, sorry!

    So many people LOVE cocktail hours and say it’s their favorite part. The $1.8 million bride really missed the boat on that one. 

    Post # 15
    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes every time I have to talk about it with my mother haha, but never because of guests. Can’t wait until it’s here and the planning is over!  4 months left!!

    Post # 16
    9955 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Lol, I would have just sat there transfixed… lapping up each and every wonderful tidbit he had to offer on ALL the top-drawer Wedding Details.

    Then I would have looked at him totally serious like and said…

    “Wow what a fabulous idea… I sooo want to do this for our Wedding. YOU ARE RIGHT it is the ONLY way to go (mega stress on the words in caps) .  So if you’d be sooo kind to lend us the other  1-3/4 MILLION DOLLARS that we seem to be coming up short… we could certainly get this show on the road !!”

    Then *rolls eyes* dramatically.

    Ya the other Bees are right… he sounds like a self-centered boor.

    — — —
    And for the record, most Brides do find Wedding Planning to be stressful… no matter the size of the event.

    Even our one-on-one Elopement to a Destination Wedding, followed by an AMAZING Honeymoon has me stressed out at times.


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