(Closed) Unhappy as I didn't want him to see me in the getup until the ceremony

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@jsanford:  Why dont you get a reception dress and use it as a greet the guests dress as well? IThat way you cam both loosen up and you’re both happy! I saw a super cute wedding where the couple had cocktail greetings with the guests first so they could relax, they didnt change for the ceremony but I think it would be a nice touch 😉 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

Why not let him hide until showtime too, and delegate hosting duties to a social-butterfly relative or two?  You’ll have lots of time to socialize once the deed is done, and this way you both get some time with your thoughts before the big event.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’ve never seen the groom acting as a host before the wedding starts.  That’s why there are ushers.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Won’t the wedding start soon after the guests are boarded? And won’t there be the entirety of the reception afterward for both of you to entertain? If so, I don’t really think he should be whining. But if you decide to hide, for fairness’ sake you should allow him to hide too and give the task of greeting to a parent or other relative as PP suggested.

I would NOT give in on greeting everyone in your wedding dress, though. As a guest, one of my very favorite parts is the big reveal when the bride emerges, and if I had already shaken her hand on a boat dock, it’d be pretty anticlimactic.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

@moriah:   This.

 

also… He has an objection for a bit and then apologizes for his reaction as soon as you seems to understand his point of veiw? That doesn’t mean you have to do it his way. It means the discussion is only halfway over and he has to see it your way before you decide rationally (no emotional blackmailing) together.

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