Post # 1
Does anyone else not too excited about thier wedding day? Don’t get me wrong, I love my Fiance, and I’m excited to be married to him. However, wedding planning has be horrible for me. Our wedding it 2 weeks away and I just feel like getting in my car and driving until I run out of gas. I’ve never been the type of women who dreamed about this day! I wish I was, and I try to be but I can’t and it’s making me so miserable.
I never thought I’d get married but when I started dating my Fiance I knew he was the man for me. I tried to convence him we should elope, or have a court house wedding, and possibly celebrate afterward with a low key party with good food and possibly a band. He was against the idea automatically, he is from a really big family and his parents eloped. Evidently, his parents actions was a huge scandal and there are still hurt feelings about other family members not feeling apart of thier day. My Fiance told me that he wants the wedding and feels that I will look back on the day fondly. Unfortunately, I’ve been the only one planning the damn thing!
To make matters worse another one of his family members is getting married and the bride to be is so full of energy and excitement. I feel like a fool next to her, secretly sulking and doing the whole stiff upper lip in front of relatives. Fretting over details, keeping up with my course work (fulltime) and working full time is making me mental. And to top it off I feel bad for not enjoying “the process”. Please tell me I’m not alone and that someone else shares my feelings.
Post # 3
It sounds like you’re completely overwhelmed. To be a full time student who is also working full time AND planning a wedding means you’re one of two things…completely insane or feel like your about to go that way.
I commend you for your patience, and I think that if I were in your shoes I would have blown my cool by now. Your Fiance insisted on a wedding and has left you with the planning. So unfair, but at the same time, soooooo typical!
Mantra for the next two weeks is “___ days and it’s over”. Repeat as often as needed.
That said, try to have a great time the day of and know that after the party you can relax (as much as a fulltime student & employee can) with your new husband and savour it all being over with!
Post # 4
Well the point isnt about the detial but if you make it down the aisle and back up with your Husband. Me I thought I would elope too since I never thought (now wanted to) get married prior to Fiance. In fact a sophmore school assignment was to write a letter to our future spouse and what our wedding plans would be. I said to expect me in a white Tshirt if it were to happen and I asked if we were doing it because I was preggers ( Im not preggers) Then I said well if he was marrying out of love then I must have hit him over the head hard! lol we laugh now but I understand the stress of planning a real wedding. I was at this point a few weeks ago. Let him know you are srealiztressed and that you need his help. I he wants this wedding he should be willing to help with it. Normally they just dont want to get in the way so he may not realize you want him to help
Post # 5
I can somewhat relate. However, I am one of those brides who dreamed about their wedding long before I met Mr. Right, so naturally when I got engaged I was super excited to plan everything. Then I realized, this isn’t fun at all….it hasn’t been horrible for me, not overly stressful, no major crises. Other brides just seemed so excited about planning their weddings that I thought it would be fun…lol. Silly me. I could really go for someone else planning it, and me just showing up and enjoying it. I just don’t care that much about every little detail. I think you and I need to keep reminding ourselves that this is the one and only time we are going to have to do all of this! Good luck!
Post # 6
I am in the same boat as you! Between school, work, and this wedding business (that I am planning all on my own) I am about to scream! My Fiance and I originally were planning on a wedding for just me and him in Hawaii, but his mom shot that down because “she just LOOOOOVES weddings”. SIGH.
2 more weeks, you can do it! Soon you will be sharing your beautiful recap pictures for us to see 🙂
Post # 7
Ah I feel the same way. FH thinks his parents may get upset if there isn’t an actual wedding. But I never really envisioned a wedding for myself and have no desire to plan one. The whole idea just makes me so anxious! It would be SO much easier to elope!
I really have no words of advise other than to say, you’re not alone! Hang in there!
Post # 8
Im getting married in a month and I just want to ruuuuuuuuuuun. All this planning has worn me out. Im full time worker part time student and my off days arent off days anymore. I just want it to go away. lol. I told my Fiance I didnt want a wedding anymore. guest list went from 70 to 100 and im wondering WHO ARE ALL THESE PEOPLE. You are not alone!
Post # 9
We share the same wedding day and my dress isn’t finished. I’m having so much trouble with the alterations I want to scream and cry. Hang in there… we’re almost one and done!