Unhappy with engagement photos

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
9903 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I have no idea what pictures you looked at but the ones in that link are absolutely gorgeous! There’s no double chin or boob spillage happening!

You are being incredibly hard on yourself. You are a beautiful woman. 

Post # 3
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

 I’m sorry you were unhappy with the photos. FWIW, I like them and think you both look lovely. I would hardly call this reason enough to call off your entire wedding though. Perhaps you should discuss your concerns with the photographer, or just find a new one.

Post # 4
403 posts
Helper bee

 Girlll you are being too harsh on yourself. My engagement photographer was the same. Some of the angles he used for me were just HIDEOUS and made me look way heavier than I am/awkward. That being said these photos are beautifully lit/finished My photographer retouched maybe 12 photos for us and I only actually really liked 3-4 of them, and realistically this is all you need! You’ll find a lot of bees don’t like the way they look in their pictures (myself included). When he photographs your wedding tell him you don’t want any low angles and to tell you if you need adjusting. 

Post # 5
14987 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 Huh??  I can only see like TWO that might have a bit much boobage only cause of the angle downward.   I don’t see any that you can see up your skirt.  I thought most of them were super cute.  We’re our own worst critics. 

Post # 6
2092 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Manasa Kaujalgi :  looking at the photos, I don’t think you look bad at all. I thought the photos were adorable and you and your Fiance are a sweet couple! We are all our own worst critics when it comes to our insecurities.

My best advice, don’t look at them for a few days and go back. If you’re still really upset about these photos, you could talk to your photographer and see if they would do a reshoot or if they could touch up some photos. Just mentioned your insecurities and I’m sure they would work with you.

Post # 7
1339 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

I think they’re adorable and I think you both look great. 

This sounds more like you’re unhappy with you, based on the “I’ve been dieting and gymming regularly” comment. Be kinder to yourself! Your wedding will be wonderful and you’ll look beautiful. Please don’t cancel it. 

Post # 8
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Oh honey your pictures look wonderful! I struggle with my weight. I 100% understand how you feel but trust me you have so many fabulos pictures. I had to stop writing down the ones I liked at #25 becasue honestly they are all so wonderful. Deep breaths. You are a beautiful woman and the love you and your fiance have for each other is so obvious in every single one. I promise you, these pictures are fantastic and you definetly do NOT LOOK LIKE A COW. I’m so sorry you feel this way bee. Giving you big hugs!!!!

Post # 9
7253 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I love my photographer, but didnt love my engagement photos either. I just dont like how I look! My hair and makeup looked flawless, but I just didnt lose as much weight as I wanted and picked out my double chin and fat arms in the photos. Of course Fiance was the same, and hated how he looked, but we both loved how the other looked haha. We ARE our own worst critics. Your photos look beautiful! I prefer the ones where youre both sitting or you’re sitting on the fence, because your height difference is a bit comical! You guys are so cute! (I would have totally played that up with a little step stool or something haha)

Post # 10
312 posts
Helper bee

Talk to your photographer, he or she may can help you.

Some of the pictures you do have a double chin. Please know everyone can have a double chin if you put your face a certain way. I am quite thin but I sometimes have a double chin. It looks natural and care free.  Your double chin that appears only in some of these is not distracting at all to me. 

There are a couple shots where it is too low cut for my taste personally, but there is nothing indecent. I have three pictures in my gallery that are close ups of below my waist. My dress is doing a beautiful marilyn monroe thing, but you can see all the way up my thigh. In another you can clearly see the outline of my underwear. My fiance think this pictures are very sexy. I will not send them out but they are for him, then I am ok.

Of yours, I see a few I would be proud to send out. I really like this one. You are beautiful. 

Post # 11
2511 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I really like your photos and think you are reacting extremely dramatically. 

You’re a beautiful girl and your Fiance looks at you like you’re the only girl in the world, you can truly feel the love between you. 


Post # 12
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

You should probably change your user name from your full name – a quick google brings up your facebook, wedding info, linkedin profile…

As for the photos, they are super cute! I love the bicycle ones! You are a great couple! You definitely are being too harsh on yourself.

Post # 13
257 posts
Helper bee

We actually used the same photo company that you used and we weren’t totally happy with all of our photos, engagement AND wedding. I feel like Beautiful Life misrepresents themselves a bit on their website – they have the cream of the crop shown and I felt like our photos didn’t reflect what they put out on their website. They did a good job, but didn’t meet my expectations for the price we paid.

I felt the same way about our engagement photos when we first got them. Both Darling Husband and I were upset with the photos until we took some time to really look at them. We needed to take a step back and look at the photos as engagement photos, not photos of US. You will always pick yourself apart in photos and find the worst in them – try to take a step back and look at the photos objectively, as if its not you and your hubby-to-be.

FWIW, I think you look great in the photos, they do showcase how happy you guys make each other. But if you’re second guessing, do NOT sign the contract with BLS. Step away and have a second enagement shoot done by a different photographer. The only other suggestion I can make is for you to wear heels – my Darling Husband is tall and she recommended that I wear heels so the photos wouldn’t look too awkward.

Happy to share my engagement/wedding photos with you if you’d like to see what some of their finished work was like on a real client. If you’re using the Canadian BLS studio, then you’d be working with the same photogs as we did. PM me if you want to chat further!



Post # 14
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You look lovely! If you really hate them, you do still have time to contact a new photographer. 

Fwiw, most people don’t love every single photo and you are mostly likely only going to look at and hang a few photos on your wall or use them for others purposes. So if you can find 2-4 photos that you really like, that’s all you need. 

Post # 15
140 posts
Blushing bee

 You do not have to share photos you do not like of yourself… I think they look lovely. But if you do not like them, keep those you do and put away those you do not.

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