Unhappy with engagement photos

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 16
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

These pictures are gorgeous!!!  I don’t think there is a bad picture in the whole bunch!  We are our own worst critics, but from an outsiders point of view, I think these turned out amazing!

i know how you feel… when we got our engagement pictures back, at first I hated them.  I thought I looked fat in every one.  However, after I gave it a couple of days, I ended up really liking them, and we have used them for many of our wedding projects.

Comparison is the thief of joy, so don’t compare your pictures to anyone else’s.  They are amazing, and you rocked this photo shoot!!

Post # 17
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Newbee

Hey bee, I totally get it. We just got our engagement photos back a few weeks ago and I was the same way! I am also a bit overweight, and have a constant double chin even at my skinniest weight. When I first opened my photos, I cried. I hated all of them and wanted to hide them from my friends and family. Why didn’t I look like a beautiful runway model! 

Honestly I think in your case (and mine) it was more of a case of we are our own worst critics. Of course I didn’t look like a runway model, because I’m not one! What I did was take a couple of days and not look at them, and then come back with fresh eyes. I slowly started to warm up to mine, and after a week or so I really loved mine! They show me and my Fiance how we really are and how in love we are.

For what it’s worth, I think your photos are stunning! Hopefully in a couple days/week you will love them too! 

Post # 18
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5948 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

Manasa Kaujalgi :  I looked at most of your photos and think you are both freakin’ adorable! I think the boob spillage shot is too much for me, yes, but you are wearing a pretty deep V with some hefty boobage, so it was probably going to happen. So don’t order that one! SO many good pix. You said you usually hate pix of yourself and you may be stuck in that mindset, and that your SIL is “more attractive”. Whatevs! Don’t cry, these are goooorgeous!! Seriously. And I usually don’t even like engagment photos.

Post # 19
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

What are you talking about?!?! You look great in those photos! The best part is how happy the two of you look. I think you are being WAY too hard on yourself. 

Post # 20
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2296 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

I really only saw a few where I was like, “Why did the photog pose them like that?” but they were the ones where the height difference was most emphasized. In none of them was I thinking you looked anything but lovely.

You and Fiance are adorable. I think you may be your own worst critic. I think PPs are right. Pause. Give it a few days and look again. 

If you still hate them, choose a new photographer, don’t cancel the wedding. That’s crazytalk. 

Post # 21
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545 posts
Busy bee

Can I just say, I was expecting awful pictures, and that is not what I saw! I think they are super sweet and you look beautiful! I will tell you what I tell all my brides, we are our own worse critics. When you look at those picture and see a “double chin” we look at them and see a blushing bride who is sharing sweet moments with her soon to be husband. Do not be so hard on yourself, girl. The pictures looked beautiful. 

Post # 22
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1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I don’t think these are bad! If you’re unhappy with them, tell the photographer.

FWIW, I do think your photog could color correct these a bit more. I think most of them look heavy in cyan and magenta. They look a bit flat too, as in there’s not a white and black point.

Were you comfortable with him? If not, find someone you are comfortable with :o)

Post # 23
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516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

 

Manasa Kaujalgi :  I think youre crazy! they are beautful photos. Your photographer did anamazing job The photos taken are amazing quailty. I think you just dont like your outfit. It happens. I persoanlyl love them all. 

Post # 24
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5815 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Most of your pictures are lovely, admittedly some are quite booby but you have larger boobs and wore a low cut dress so i’m not sure how that’s the photographers fault. 

Post # 25
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t see anything wrong with those photos.  A good photographer can’t change the way you look… however, they should understand which angles and lighting make you look your best (and Photoshop/editing, if we’re being honest). 

For future photos (like your wedding day), I’d recommend learning what angles and poses are flattering to you, and make sure you explain to your photographer that this is important to you.  Make sure to have plenty of photos with those angles/poses. 

There are a million articles on Pinterest and Google to help you find your  most flattering angles and poses to make you appear younger/thinner/whatever.  There’s a reason why you always see celebs posing the exact same way… Hope this helps!

Post # 26
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I wanted to add that you should practice these angles and poses.  Have a friend/finace take pics on your cell for quick reference.  It’s not difficult.  🙂

Post # 27
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1546 posts
Bumble bee

You look darling!  And so very happy with your Fiance.

Post # 28
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234 posts
Helper bee

I think your photographer did a wonderful job, your photos are lovely bee! Sometimes people can be too hard on themselves. I had a similar expectation as you for our engagement photos, I was hoping our photographer would work magic and make my short legs look long, I hoped my 5ft self would look like a model! Lmao…I realized it was an unrealistic expectation and cut myself some slack hehe. Regardless, your photos are beautifully done. Don’t let it get you down!

Post # 29
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120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

You are a beautiful couple! I actually rather like your photos. My husband and I did not get to do engagement photos, so I am actually jelous! The only thing that would bother me was if a picture had too much chest revealing due to the angle (there was one where you see a hint of bra) but that’s just me personally being conservative. If anything, if that bothered you, just don’t use that one. You have many, many other stunning photos!

Take some time to think on it. Don’t look at the photos for awhile, then come back to them. You may have a new perspective after reflecting. And if after all that, if it really, really bothers you, and you are able to do so, take new engagement photos with a different photographer. Life is short, why not? 

It really cannot be as bad as the story my friend told me; she has a daughter who recently got married around the same time as me, but during the planning process her daughter had gotten engagement photos done by a family friend of her now-husband’s. This family friend was a self-proclaimed wild life photographer. My friend showed me the photos, and let me tell you, being a wild life photographer does not translate well AT ALL. This person was also trying to do their wedding photos. Thankfully, they were able to get our of using the same photographer for their wedding photos, because how unhappy they were with the engagement photos, things would not have ended well. I can happily say that they were ecstatic with their wedding photographer and the pictures came out awesome.

Bottom line, this is a special time in your lives, and do what makes you happiest 🙂

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Youre being way too hard on yourself! I was expecting some amateur hour disaster photos but these are great and you look lovely. 

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