(Closed) Unhelpful Friends

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Oh gosh definately not alone there! EVERY holiday, birthday, anniversary, special evening… After we recently returned from Fiji (for his sister’s wedding. he wasnt proposing then!) EVERYONE asked if he proposed. For my birthday recently, one of the first messages I got “did you get a ring for your birthday?”

SO frustrating! Try not to let it get to you… I believe the boy will likely give off some signs when he is ready!

Post # 4
1104 posts
Bumble bee

My friends got a bit like this. After we agreed on our timeline (2009) I told everyone that’s when we were getting engaged so they couldn’t get their hopes up until then. I probably said it in a way that made them realise I didn’t really want to talk about it! He took me away in November 2008 for my birthday and proposed, when we got back everyone said they’d wondered if that would be the weekend – I guess they didn’t take the timeline seriously 🙂

Post # 5
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This happens to me too. My boyfriend and I went for a long weekend at a bed and breakfast and the first thing my friend said when I told her I was going was…you’re going to get engaged. My other friends also asked if I thought I would but didn’t flat out say I would. I didn’t get my hopes up that time because I just wanted to enjoy the trip and was not disappointed.

My boyfriend has told me after that weekend that he didn’t think it was very creative to get engaged on a trip. Now he has planned a weekend getaway for us next weekend, not telling me where we are going or any details. If he hadn’t told me he didn’t think trip proposals were creative I would assume it was happening then. He says a lot of things to throw me off though because he wants to surprise me so I don’t know if this was one too. My friends are all assuming…saying why would he plan something a surprise and not get engaged? It would be really shocked if you didn’t….etc. I’m trying not to get my hopes up this time but it’s harder! We didn’t have an exact time line but I knew it would be sometime this year and he’s made comments that make it sound like we’ll be engaged by our anniversary which is in September, I always assumed it would happen then but he said he’s not doing it on an anniversary, birthday or holdiday.

Everyone is always asking. He tells me people at work ask all the time. He told me his aunts and Granparents call and ask his parents if we’re engaged yet, my family does too. My friends are always tallking. He thinks it’s so weird that people talk and care about us being engaged!

Post # 6
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh my gosh – yes! (Whew, I thought it was just me) My sister, my best friend, even BF’s mom. My BF’s parents went to a wedding in Puerto Rico over the Easter holidays and when they got back it hit me that BF’s mom sounds like she is just itching to get in on some wedding planning. She kept talking about how she felt so bad for the bride because the DJ wasn’t playing music to dance to at the reception so people left early and how she would have done it differently and other things about the flowers and the cake and you get the idea. She’s great and I’ve known her for almost 5 years so this isn’t her usual. I thought it was kind of telling but her son is NOT getting it. :-/

Post # 8
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

oh definitely not alone! whenever i go to visit the mister or he comes to visit me, i spend a couple weeks prepping people to not expect a proposal! they are always so bummed when i get back sans ring. its cute that they’re excited but its so hard on them. lol

Post # 9
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

YES! You are not alone!! Everyone does this to me too! Anytime we go anywhere out of town, his bday, my bday, holidays, ect. I get a million txt asking if he popped the question! People are funny like that! I think it will just be never ending questions. Once you do get engaged then they’ll ask you when your date is, then once you get married it will be when are you having kids then when are you having another kid. It will never end!! LOL

Post # 10
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It happened to my friend Andrea a lot..turns out he didn’t propose for a long time because he made a MOVIE proposal and played it at the drive-in she works at on the weekends. It was professional quality stuff, and all of her family and friends were their. Sometimes the perfect proposal takes a long time!

Best of luck!

Post # 11
1765 posts
Buzzing bee


WoW!  A movie proposal !!  Incredibly creative and time consuming!!

Post # 12
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Wow that is creative!!!! No wonder so many guys are stuck in their tracks, they feel like they need to do something that *fabulous*

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