Uniform or Different Style Bridesmaid dresses?

posted 11 months ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Uniform or Different Style Bridesmaid dress?
    Uniform : (3 votes)
    15 %
    Different : (17 votes)
    85 %
  • Post # 2
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2020 - Anchor Village

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    annex08 :  Honestly, I love the look of the uniform same dress same color. However, if your bridesmaids aren’t similar sizes or shapes it could be difficult to find one dress for everyone! I think it’s important for your bridesmaids to feel comfortable and confident in the dress especially if they are paying for it. 

    Post # 3
    6424 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    annex08 :  I love the look of same color different style.  Not all bridesmaid will have the same body shape and some might be uncomfortable with the style you pick and having the same color different styles allows each person some individuality while conforming to the colors of your wedding along with feeling confident.

    Post # 4
    2179 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    Personally, I prefer different dresses. It let the bridesmaids personality show through and they are more comfortable in it if they pick their own. Plus, being in muliple weddings, I always felt better if I got to choose my dress. I could pick one that I could wear a bra in (I am very busty) and that was more flattering/comfortable to me. 

    Post # 5
    1440 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

    Do whatever is going to be easier on you from a decisions standpoint. You’re already doing so much-  you don’t need to be stressing over bridesmaid dresses. If that means just picking a color and letting them get what they want in that color, then so be it! Don’t overthink it too much. 

    Post # 6
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2020 - City, State

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    annex08 :  I like uniform too but ultimately I ended up letting my brides maids choose. Part of my choice was to help them stay in their individual budgets. The other part was because my bridesmaids are different shapes, and sizes. I wanted them all to feel/look their best. If you are paying and everyone is similar in shape/size then I would do uniform looks because cohessiveness is a very good look.

    Post # 7
    3235 posts
    Sugar bee

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    annex08 :  Bridesmaids wearing different styles make a much more interesting visual than if they wore the same dress; I would even say that different tones of the same color is a great option. Since women have different  preferences when it comes not only to silhouette but style, I think having bridesmaids choose according to their style/personality is very respectful to them, and would be a beautiful image of different women who occupy a very special place in the bride’s life. Just as examples:

    Post # 8
    4788 posts
    Honey bee

    I believe that everyone should look their best.  A happy, comfortable bridesmaid will look a lot better than a bridesmaid who feels self-conscious.  Sure, the pic you posted of the same dress looks nice, but that photo also has bridesmaids who are approximately all the same height, weight, coloring, and bust size.  There’s no way I would be remotely comfortable shoving my DDD girls into a halter top with little support.

    So if all of your bridesmaids can be happy and comfortable in the same exact dress and can agree on one – then go for it.  This generally works best if they are all generally the same size, shape, coloring (for example, I look like sh** and photograph ghastly in most pastel shades or warmer shades) and have the same level of modesty (I know plenty of women not comfortable in certain styles of dresses even if their perceived flaws don’t warrant it). 

    If they can’t agree or it is becoming a long-drawn out process to find common ground, then I would drop it and let them wear what they are comfortable with.


    ETA:  As an aside, I prefer different as a general rule.  I’m not into the Stepford Wives look and it always comes off a little too much like they are props rather than important people to me.  My friends are all drastically different not only in their looks, but in their styles.  And if I have them standing up with me, then presumably it’s because I appreciate them for who they are.  I just don’t see the need to start erasing their personality and style for a wedding.  But you do you.

    Post # 9
    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    annex08 :  Second picture is waaaayyy better. 

    The bridesmaids in the first picture all have the same body type, even their height is similar. The whole picture looks incredibly creepy and fake to me, almost looks like the bride wanted a few adoring clones surrounding her. If you had girls with different body types, that dress would look awful. What bra would you even wear with it? This might not be the dress style you are thinking of, but honestly I have a large chest and I look AWFUL in almost every single bridesmaid dress I’ve ever worn because the style is never flattering for my body. 

    Looking at the second picture, everyone looks like they are actually having a good time. They look comfortable and real. They all have different body types and have chosen dresses appropriate for flaunting or hiding according to their level of comfort. They look like they are there because the bride values their personalities, not because she wants props. 

    Post # 10
    599 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

    Same color + same style always looks a little … idk, 90s sorority movie to me. Which isn’t to say it hasn’t been done well by plenty of people. But it’s definitely a little more dated, and not always very flattering.

    I think same color + choose your style is the best, because it gives people the opportunity to select what looks beautiful on THEIR body. The busty girl can pick something with straps, the modest girl can cover her shoulders, etc. If they’re all from the same manufacturer or in the same fabric, that’s nice too, but not required. It also gives the best chance of someone being able to wear it again, if they’re invested in the style instead of just told what they HAVE to wear.

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