(Closed) Unintentional wedding snub?!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2274 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BigKTibs41:  If you forgot to tell someone happy birthday, you’d tell them the next day.  Invite her now, and include a note saying it was an oversight, and you’re very sorry, and hope she will be gracious enough to forgive you and attend.

Post # 4
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013


Do you have any means of contacting her? If so call her up, explain the oversight and get the address to send the invitation. Most people can tell when you’re being sincere, just apologize for the mix up and let them know how happy it would make you and Fiance to have them share in your day.

Post # 5
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BigKTibs41:  Phone and apologise. Tell the truth, that you simply made a mistake and missed her name. Then send her an invite.

Post # 6
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d be tempted to say it must have gotten lost in the mail. In any case I’d definitely apologize and invite them.

Post # 7
1465 posts
Bumble bee

Call, fall all over yourself with an apology and warmly invite them.

Story for you:  2 years ago my nephew got married.  When I married into the family I brought 2 daughters with me.  They have always been treated very well by DH’s family.

Brother-In-Law and SIL asked for my girls’ addresses for the wedding.  They never ended up receiving invitations and we just chalked it up to a huge guest list, cuts had to be made and didn’t take it personally.

The morning before the wedding they somehow figured out my girls didn’t get invited.  SIL had given Brother-In-Law the addresses, but he accidently forgot to put them on the spreadsheet.  Oops.

We got the most apologetic phonecall and Brother-In-Law and SIL couldn’t have felt worse.  They were mortified this had happened.  I told them it was no big deal but they wanted the girls to know what had happened and to know they were very welcome to attend and it was just an oversight on their part.  THEY JUST TOLD THE TRUTH!

I called my girls, they got sitters, and we had a great time, no offense taken.

Call them and be honest.  Warmly invite them and let them make their decision.

We all make mistakes.  We apologize and hope the ones offended accept it.  If they don’t, the problem then lies with them.

Good luck.

Post # 8
4835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@BigKTibs41:  YOu should send an invite but also call her before it arrives to let her know it was an oversight/you had the wrong address/whatever.

Post # 9
16 posts
  • Wedding: March 2015

Send invite but also call personally and apologize. If possible, take them out for a meal or social  event to mend the fence and show you do want to spend time with them. Good luck!

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