Post # 1
I’m just wondering, do your bridesmaids always show enthusiasm for your wedding? I asked my sister and my 3 best friends to be bridesmaids but so far none of them have followed up on any email I’ve sent and only one is actually happy to hear about wedding stuff and asks about it. Of my other two friends one is really busy with her own things and doesn’t get in touch much at all unless I really chase her up and the other is so sad about still not being engaged that she only really wants to talk about her dream wedding. And my sister… well, we’ve had a difficult relationship for years so I’m not expecting much.
I see all these photos of the bride and bridesmaids have an absolute blasts, having lots of parties and enjoying the wedding process. I kind of feel that I’m inconveniencing people and that I shouldn’t talk about the wedding because they’re not interested and that I should just be happy if they show up in the right colour dress (any shade of purple, I was trying not to be too demanding…)
Just feeling really discouraged at the moment, help!
Post # 3
You’re going to hear a lot of people say that no one will be as excited about your wedding as you are and it’s true. I’m having two bridesmaids and one of them is excited and will talk wedding plans, the other is pretty disinterested about anything wedding related unless it’s her telling me what she isn’t going to do. As things get closer, I’m sure that they will be a little more excited.
Post # 4
@Oxfordnerd: I have not asked my BMs yet, but I know that only my Maid/Matron of Honor who is also my BFF is going to be excited (I have asked her and have already been talking about it and she is excited). My other BMs will be my SIL, Future Sister-In-Law, and possibly my FI’s step sisters. I don’t really have any good friends besides my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I don’t really have a relationship with my Future Sister-In-Law or his stepsisters, and my SIL and I just aren’t that close. I am not really expecting a ton of help from them. Maybe if you just put it in your head that it is basically going to be you excited and that’s it, it will be easier to deal with.
Those pictures are not the norm, I can tell you that. I get were you are coming from with the whole trying to not talk about the wedding cuz nobody else is interested. I think most brides go through that, since obviously no one will care about your wedding as much as you will.
Post # 5
Thanks guys, I feel better already! I guess after over 2 years of engagement the wedding is now 5 months away and I’m getting really excited, but the rest isn’t quite on the same excitement curve as I am.
Post # 6
I have three bridesmaids and two bridesmen. One of the bridesmaids and one of the bridesmen are excited. One other bridesmaid and the other bridesman (my brother) aren’t too interested independently but will show limited interest if I bring it up (my brother’s main interest is that he’d like to carry a lightsaber during the ceremony, so, okay, whatever, if it makes him happy). My Maid/Matron of Honor basically doesn’t care at all, which is really stupid because UNTIL I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, she was the most excited about it. But it was like as soon as I asked her it flipped a switch and she now doesn’t care and gets really jealous about everything. It’s so stupid.
FORTUNATELY though I have some other girls I’ve become friends in the past year (I was acquainted with them before but last summer we just started hanging out a whole lot more) who are super excited and always willing to talk over things with me and help me with planning decisions. I wish I hadn’t picked my bridesmaids until after we’d set the venue, because then I would have picked some of these girls instead of the others. These are the ones throwing me my bachelorette party since my bridesmaids totally dropped the ball. But ohhhhhh wellllll. I am getting them thank you presents just like the bridesmaids since they have been such a help, and they’re getting invited to the rehearsal dinner as well.
Post # 7
No worries, I know how you feel. I think my BMs are too busy with their own lives right now to place that much attention on my wedding. But then 2 of them are related to my Fiance (his cousin and sister) so they are a little more involved. The cousin is planning our couples shower and his sister has been giving me input on decor and things. One of them is busy trying to graduate college this semester, another has 2 little ones, and the other one is working 2-3 jobs. So I am trying to be understanding but I think when it gets closer to the date, I am going to want a little more involvement. But for the most part, I am doing a lot of it myself.