(Closed) Uninterested MOH :(

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It sucks but only one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man lives in town and right now she is very sick so she doesn’t help me at all.  Do you have another Bridesmaid or Best Man decides C?  Since she is married you could make her Matron of Honor.  A is probably just in that new relationship phase.

Hope everything works out.


Post # 4
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

yep I thought my friend of27 years would be a lot more helpful than she was!!! Very disapointing!!!

Post # 5
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My situation is alittle different but just as annoying. Just ask your current Maid/Matron of Honor if she is truly up for the job/interested in all of the responsibility involved in being a Maid/Matron of Honor. Sometimes people don’t know how much is on their shoulders with the job. Maybe she will suprise you and say she would rather just be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and you can bump C up to Maid/Matron of Honor. I had a friend who I had to kick out of my bridal party because she is too busy to get a dress, call, email, text or anything and I just couldn’t live with everything being up in the air with her.

Post # 6
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a disagreement with my Maid/Matron of Honor, a close friend here in town, back in December and I still don’t feel good with our relationship.  Partly over the incident that led to the disagreement and partly because it’s become clear that we’ve grown apart.  I knew that it would be awful to ask her to step down and just be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but I really didn’t want to look back at my wedding and see someone I’m no longer close with standing next to me.  I also realized that I should have asked my sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor in the first place (and that my sister’s feelings were a little hurt that I hadn’t).  I ended up asking my friend if she would mind if my sister became a co-MOH.  She seemed a little taken aback but said she was fine with whatever I decided.  …So now I have 2 MOHs.

I’m not happy with how it all went down, I actually still feel bad about putting my MOHs in this position.  I’m sure they don’t feel great about it either.

I guess in your shoes I would probably try to talk with A about it, see where’s she coming from, if she’s still even up for being your Maid/Matron of Honor, before making any decisions.  Evaluate whether it’s worth potentially hurting feelings or damaging relationships before you decide what to do.

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