- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I just can’t believe the nerve of some people. My former friend and bm sent me a text yesterday saying she knows her rsvp is late, but may try to come to the wedding with her entire family, but won’t know until the day of. EXCUSE ME!!!!!!
A little back story I had been friends with her since college so about 23 years. I was in her wedding we had lost touch but reconnected. I asked her to be my bm FI’s sister is my MoH. I didn’t invite any other friends or hardly any family because of my Future Mother-In-Law and her guest list we are only having 50 people, but that’s okay becasue my parents are hosting another party at their house later so we can invite our family & friends.
Anyway, she said she would be a bm. She lied about selecting a dress (MOH already had hers) they didn’t have to match just be knee length and ivory and could accomodate a green sash. Several months later, she finally admitted she didn’t have a dress and didn’t want to wear ivory. I had found one that was under 100.00 and even said I would pay for it even though I really didn’t have the extra money. The one time she could meet with me in person I bought lunch and all she had to talk about was some of the people we went to college with and their lives. I really could care less about most of those people. The people from college I care about, I know about their lives and don’t gossip about me. She said she didn’t rally care about the wedding plans, then I found about the lies. I asked her if she even wanted to be in my wedding. She said she would if she had to but she wouldn’t wear anything but black. Ummm my colours are ivory and moss green. It’s a morning wedding and an English afternoon tea. She also wanted me to change the time of the wedding. I don’t think so, so I told her if she couldn’t adhere to my simple wishes, then maybe it was best if she didn’t attend. I left it up to her. She said she didn’t want to be in the wedding since she could wear what she wanted. Okay, when she got married I wore the ugliest peach dress with puff sleeves, but it was what she wanted.
After that, I found about about more lies and told her it might be best to part ways for our friendship. I don’t need people like that in my life. I had already sent out the invitations, but she asked if she should come, (she was still complaining that it was a mornign wedding and reception and we were having Mass). I said under the circumstances, I didn’t think it was a good idea.
Fast forward to now, she texts me and says she may come and won’t know until the day of if she wants to come and might bring 10 people. I only invited her, her husband , & their 3 children. I said it was too late and too much damage had been done. Plus, I have already given the final numbers to my caterer and I was able to subtract a whole table because they weren’t coming. I told her she couldn’t come now. She was surprised that I said it wasn’t a good idea that they come….really???
Sorry Bees, it was a long rant. I can’t believe some people.