(Closed) uninvited guest question

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh, what a cruddy situation!!

Unfortunately, the only real thing I think you can do now is call and explain the situation. Whatever could have been done to avoid it has passed (by the way, I completely plan on overinviting…I’m definitely hoping no one will come in the place of those who can’t make it! Everything I’ve read said this is totally acceptable).

I think in these cases what happens a lot is people come who are just looking for a vacation. Maybe they’ll choose to come anyway. If so, if you’re having any extra events, dinners, etc., you could suggest they come along to that even if there isn’t enough room for the actual wedding. And remind them that you’re looking forward to seeing them at the home reception 🙂

Good luck!! 

Post # 4
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

WOW. That’s so rude! I guess you call them and say "Hi, I heard that you bought tickets for the wedding weekend… we’d love to see you over the weekend, but I wanted to let you know ASAP that because of the size of the venue, we won’t be able to accommodate you at the wedding itself… I’m so sorry this turned out this way, I wish we had communicated about it earlier." The trick, I think, is to sound apologetic but firm, while actually pointing out that it’s their fault, so they shouldn’t complain.

Post # 5
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wow this is a hard one! I’m so passive that I wouldn’t say anything but just hope that they all fit in the venue.  You will be so busy and consumed with getting dressed that day and walking down the aisle that you won’t notice them there or not there!  What does you mom say?

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