Post # 1
So, my second cousin Rsvp’d via my wedding website; however, she was not sent an invitation (on purpose). She is on my “B Guest List,” but even then she is towards the bottom.
How do I handle this? Please help.
Post # 3
oh man… password protect the website to prevent it happening again? I think at this point you just roll with it…
Post # 4
um, holy cow that is awkward. I don’t see a way around it except to call them up and say “I really wish we could have invited everyone, but had to keep the guest list small.”
Who’s side of the family, could you have a relative (mom if it’s your side?) call and say, “Soon2bemrsmiles wanted me to tell you thanks so much for signing the online guestbook and sending your well wishes, she wishes she could have invited everyone, but sadly blah blah blah. . “
o.k. on second thought, don’t do that haha, that is technically getting someone to do the dirty work for you. I just hate confrontation.
Post # 5
Well, if she was on any list at all, don’t un-invite her yet. It’s possible that you’ll have enough declines to invite her. If you really run out of space, you’ll have to tell her, “I’m so sorry, but the constraints of our venue meant that we couldn’t invite everyone we wanted there.”
Post # 6
wow, she totally put you in an awkward position.
i don’t really have any good advice for ya, but please do keep us posted. i’d like to know what you end up doing:)
Post # 7
I think I will have to suck it up. 🙁
Post # 8
Yeah, unfortunately, at this point, I think you’re going to have to suck it up and let her come. Totally awkward though. Why would someone RSVP after they didn’t get an invitation? So many people have such balls!
Post # 9
yeah I had family friends and extended family who heard about my wedding putting me in an awkward position when they asked about it or asked about registry
I just said well I only have a 55 person guestlist and cant invite a lot of people and have mostly immediate family and some close friends hope you understand, think they got offended, but aw well, cant make everyone happy and keep your budget
Post # 10
ya im in that situation too. my parents long time friend (whom they havent talked to in at least 15 years…) showed up at my dads party and heard about the wedding. he was like oh great ill put it on my calander and get all the info from your dad…we have a super small list too. our max for the venue fire code is 70 including us so 2 extra people on an already maxed out list.
Post # 11
I don’t think you have to suck it up at all! You should consult your mom/dad, who ever’s side she’s from and ask them what they think. More than likely they’ll be appalled too and you’ll come to a decision together of how to let her down easy. How far along is the wedding and what are the chances that you’ll have to get to the long end of the B-list? If it’s unlikely, either you or your parents should call and say they were looking over the website and appreciate the congratulations but explain that you’re having a very intimate wedding and have already maxed out the venue space with guests or something like that.