(Closed) Uninvited Guest…

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: What should I do about the uninvited guest?
    Invite cousins fiance : (47 votes)
    78 %
    Don't invite him : (7 votes)
    12 %
    Wait to get a response card and see what happens : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Other (Please Add in comments :)) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Girl can survive without her boyfriend for a night, seriously.

    They weren’t engaged when you invited the family so I think you’re totally in the right for wanting to still not invite him.

    Post # 4
    Member
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    They’re engaged now, so he should be invited IMO. When they plan their wedding should have nothing to do with whether or not you invite him.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    invite him – its only one more person and it makes everyone happy and your life less stressful.

    be the bigger person and avoid the drama

    Post # 6
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    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @totheislnds:  I agree 100%.  You have room, they are engaged, be the bigger person and call her up and invite him.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    They are engaged, he should be included. You shouldn’t punish him for a rumor that he might have shown up in someone else’s place. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    You have never met him… It is what it is. You made that rule about the guest list and you followed it. Just because they decided to get engaged doesnt mean you change around everything now. Also she doesnt need to spend every waking moment with him if she wants to come to your wedding she can go with the family, she doesnt need to go with her bf. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    In the long run it’s not really going to matter if he comes, and you probably won’t even remember his face if he is there, so I’d go ahead and invite him if you have the room.  It would make your cousin happy, and her family, and if it’s not going to put you out any, it would be worth it to avoid any extra drama. 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    1011 posts
    Bumble bee

    You should invite him and when you let them know, let them know that his invitation is late b/c they weren’t engaged b4 and now you consider him “almost family.”

     

    Post # 11
    Member
    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I agree with others, is it really worth the drama???

    Post # 12
    Member
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    The situation sucks, but I agree that since they are engaged, he should be invited. I wouldn’t want to go to a cousin’s wedding without my fiance, regardless of when we got engaged. Her wedding planning shouldn’t have anything to do with yours, and your family should be able to recognize that yours was being planned first, etc. (If it comes down to some not being able to go to both b/c of traveling or whatever). I think to avoid drama, you should bite the bullet and invite him. Weddings aren’t the time or place to “make a point” and especially if you have the room now. Just my opinion 🙂

    Post # 13
    Member
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Yea you can call and say that you didnt realize the two of them were serious when you did the invites and in general to save space and money you were only inviting serious significant others. Then say sorry you didn’t realize and that he can come. Getting caught up in family gossip and letting it affect your emotions can be toxic to situations

    Post # 14
    Member
    252 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @Cmt83: I completely agree. IMO, I think the drama it would cause just wouldn’t be worth keeping him from being there.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Eh, I’d just let him come since you say you have room.. it’s really not worth the extra drama this close to your big day.. you have enough on your mind, this is not a big deal.  I do think it’s kinda crummy that their wedding is going to be pretty close to yours if it goes as planned, but.. it is what it is.

    Post # 16
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    1335 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I completely agree with everything everyone has said so far. I definitely don’t think you have done anything wrong in this situation since you had understandable guidelines in place and just followed through with them.  But now, since they’re engaged and you have the space, I think you should extend an invitation to him. Definitely not worth the drama to wait for her to contact you or not invite the guy.

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