- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Okay I will try to keep this to the point, but I need to give some a backstory. My sister and I have never been extremely close, we’ve fought our entire lives. In the past couple of years we’ve become a bit closer but I wouldnt consider her my BEST friend like most people consider their siblings, shes a flake and always bails in times I’ve really needed her. So … here it goes. I lived out of state and moved back to be with my family a little more than three years ago. My sister was 17 at the time and still trying “find herself” and fit it. She came to me with a sob sotry ab how this guy had been mistreating her, I, being the big sister had a LONG talk with him. Well come to find out she had exaggerated the entire story. He had not been mistreating her, SHE had been mistreating HIM!! I was so mad, she made to look like such a fool.
Fastforward some, I moved out of my parents place and got my own with my boyfriend (Now my Fiance) and a close friend of his. We’ll call the close friend Sam. Well after a few months my sister came to me saying, Sam was blowing her phone up, texting and calling her at all hours of the day trying to hang out. Trying to get her to go out with him, etc… I lost it on Sam, she was not yet 18 and he was 26. Sam (a very level headed guy, and now very close friend) showed me all the text mesg, voicemails, phones calls. IT WAS HER, again. She was the one doing all those things not Sam. Again, i looked like such a fool, and almost lost a close friend.
This happened yet again with another person (you’d think I’d learn my lesson, but shes my sister and I felt the need to stick up for her), basically the same story so I’ll save some time and fastforward to the present. My sister is in college about three hours away. I asked asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and asked my bestfriend who is a wonderful party planner, always there for me, to be my MoH. My MoH planned this amazing weekend in Atlanta for the bachelorette party (the bachelorette party is 2 weeks away, wedding is in 3 weeks) everyone commited to going so my MoH put the hotel rooms on her CC with the promise that everyone would pay her back. Well my sister backs out, saying she just cant afford it. I was so mad, (shes going on Spring back the very next week, but can’t afford $65 for my one and only party before the wedding?) so whatever everyone else said they would throw in the extra money and make up her portion, problem solved, i have amazing friends. Well my sister calls me in a fit saying my MoH had been so rude to her over email and said so many awful things that she didnt appreciate and blah blah. So I called my bestfriend and MoH trying to get to the bottom of it, and things definitely got a little tense during our conversation. I ended up insisting that she read me all the correspondence between her and my sister, and of course, IT WAS MY SISTER (I honestly thought I was about the loose my best friend over all this). My MoH hadnt been rude at all, she just commented that it definitley sucked that we had to make up her portion after she committed, but hated that she couldnt make it, and my sister fired back with so many nasty, rude, embarrassing comments. I was mortified. I of course called my sister and confronted her about what she told me, and what ACTUALLY happened, and she blew up on me too! Hung up on me I tried calling her back 3 times with no answer. She texted me the next day with some more nasty unwanted comments, and I told her “Sister, my wedding is THREE weeks away, and you either pull yourself together and put your problems aside for now, or sit in the crowd”. She continued with her rediculous text and I finally told her she couldnt come to the wedding or any festivites if this is how she was going to be… she is such a drama queen, and I was really fearful what she’d say or do at my wedding to the MoH or just for attention. We were all supposed to be getting ready in my hotel suite, and i could just see a disater happening. I hate that I had to uninvite her, but I do feel loads better. But now its divided some people say i need to get over it and invite her bc ill regret it later, others say I made the right decision, idk, I know my Grandparents will be devistated when they find out, and my mom is pretty upset too. But we don’t always see eye to eye either, her and my sister are two peas in a pod.