(Closed) Uninvited my Sister to wedding, did I make the right decision? LONG STORY-HELP

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I think she should be allowed to come to the wedding but not be in the bridal party anymore.  You are mad at her now but you will probably end up regretting uninviting her completely. And stop confronting your friends about her! If she wants you to believe her she needs proof!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think what you did was right, you can’t risk this drama on your wedding day and you did give your sister plenty of chances to relax and come to her senses.

IF later you feel pressured to re-invite her, then insist that there is always someone avaliable to run interference between her and your MoH just in case. And do NOT make her a Bridesmaid or Best Man again, not for anything. There would be too much risk for an explosion.

Post # 5
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3229 posts
Sugar bee

No one likes a drama llama. My mother is a drama llama and has chosen not to attend my wedding. I am SO relieved.

Post # 6
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2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Sounds like you are all very young and love drama.

Post # 7
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Seriously. This sounds like an extremely juvenile reason to kick you sister out of the bridal party and dis invite her to the wedding. She sounds childish but guess what so do you. Stop injecting yourself into her drama. You can’t control your sister, but you choose to control how you react to her. I suspect if she stop getting such big reactions from you.

My suggested to you, is change how you react to her, don’t intermix with your friends. On the wedding day send her to get ready with mom or somewhere else if  you think she going to cause drama. What you are doing seems like the beginning of a big saga that may lead to estrangement. I personally think not having your sister at your wedding over what basically amounts to middle school antics and drama is ridiculous. But thats just me.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I kind of agree with PPs. I think you should invite her but DO NOT let her be a bridesmaid, leave her with your mom since they seem to get along so well, and tell your MoH not to interact with your sister either. I think if I was you, I would invite her in order to keep the peace but I’m pretty sure I’d want nothing to do with her during the actual day. Smile say hi and move on. I don’t do drama or drama-filled people. I’ve let go of many friends due to constant bullshit & I prefer to keep things to myself & keep the peace. Hopefully as she grows up she’ll grow out of this lying & exaggerating and if she does, you’ll regret not having her at your wedding as a guest.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

The only question I see in there is the title. So, yes, I think it was a mistake to disinvite your sister. I think the best responce when your sister came to you upset would have been that you’re sorry she’s hurt but it’s between her and the Maid/Matron of Honor. Especially since the Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t seem to have been too put out by the rude comments. Because then it would have ended there. But now it’s dramatown. But you’ve already disinvited her, so I’m not sure what sort of advise to give. Other than that, in the future, don’t try to play middle man between your sis and anyone else. Let her deal with shit on her own. Be supportive to her. But don’t play go between. For now, what’s done is done so just try to enjoy your wedding. Feeling guilty doesn’t help anything, so don’t stress about it. Maybe try to smooth things over a bit with her so that things aren’t awkward on wedding day.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@BridetoBee07:  It’s great that you decided to allow her to go to the wedding, but take some time to reevaluate yourself also. It seems like no matter how many times youve “learned your lesson”, you still jump the gun and blow up on whoever your sister complains about. You shouldnt be so quick to confront people/accuse them of things you have no proof of. Honestly, you are feeding her with attention and drama by doing this.

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