- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Sooo my shower is this coming Sunday (!!!!!!!!) and my best friend and Maid/Matron of Honor was still waiting on a few of my mom’s friends even though the RSVP date was June 1. My mom reached out to her friend and her friend said she hadn’t replied yet because she was waiting to see if her 20 year old daughter, who was coming back from studying abroad Amsterdam yesterday (who is NOT invited to the wedding, and was also NOT invited to the shower — the invite was only addressed to my moms friend) wanted to come. My mom said she was so shocked/caught off-guard she just said “ok let me know.” The lady called back and said both her and her daughter will be in attendance. My mom said ok, because in regards to the shower itself it’s not an “issue” to have an extra person because it is at my mom’s house (thrown by my my wonderful b-maids) so space/food is not an issue.
I am concerend because I know it is not appropriate to have someone at your shower that is not invited to the wedding. We absolutely do not have any room for her on our wedding invite list. I am also worried that these people will be just as ignorant in regards to wedding invites, and might assume that this girl (and her bf, who she has brought to another family friend wedding) will be invited to the wedding too.
My mom said she is not concerned, because we ordered 2 sets of RSVP cards, and the RSVP card that the parents of this girl are getting says “we have 2 seats resereved in your honor.” My parents are on the same page as us, but just don’t want to have a confrontation with their friends, which I understand.
Am I over-stressing about this situation? What should I do? Should I say something to this girl at the shower? I honestly don’t even know why she wants to come, I have only met her once!
Thanks for reading my mini-novel 🙂