- 6 years ago
I have joined this forum because I really need some help and opinions of the situation I’m currently in. Has anyone else had to deal with this or is it just me? 🙁 sorry it’s really long…
My cousin is getting married next month and we have always been a close extended family. As she was arranging the hen party (a *very expensive* weekend in London), everything was sorted, however I lost my job to I had to drop out of the hotel and spa day that was booked, as I was literally struggling to pay my rent let alone £500 on a hen weekend. I let her know directly about this through email (as the whole thing was arranged this way). She decided that the best cause of action for her to take was to have a huge bitch to my sister (her bridesmaid) about the situation, causing my sister and I to fall out big time. I asked her if she wanted me at the hen do and she said yes, but that she was just a bit annoyed.
Anyway, my sister and I made up and things were left there. On the final day of the hen party, I turned up for lunch and to see a west end show which in all cost me around £100. However my cousin blanked me all day, didn’t even acknowledge that I had turned up to see her and celebrate her wedding with her. Several family members noticed this and I was somewhat miffed – but continued to enjoy the day.
As my family were ready to leave on a train for the midlands (I live in London), my cousin walked off with the obvious intention of getting on the train without talking to me, and her own mother called her back. She gave me the most awkward hug ever, and I said to her (yes I probably shouldn’t have as it was her hen do but I was feeling pretty upset and angry): “Say hi to me at the wedding”.
This small statement has literally destroyed our family. She has now uninvited me to the wedding, has demoted my sister as bridesmaid (she stuck up for me, I think my cousins behaviour towards me upset her more than it did me) and uninvited her as well as my mum and dad. Her fiancé has made things worse by getting his best man and sister involved, and our family has been split down the middle.
I’m devastated, mainly for my sister and also Grandma (this is the first family feud ever), but also because I’m not sure why this has happened and why she’s reacted the way she has? What I have written is literally all I know. I don’t know what has been said over the phone between family members etc, I just can’t believe what has happened in the space of 3 days.
If anyone can give me any opinions on the situation please do because I have no idea what to do, or say, and to whom. I’d love to be able to celebrate her wedding with the whole family, but she has been so rude to me in the past few months I don’t want to appologise! I’m travelling back to the midlands tomorrow as my sister needs me. I’m still in a bit of shock.