Post # 1
This is my first ever post, so I hope it works.
My fiance and i met, feel in love straight away, lived together since day 1 and got engaged on our 1 year anniversary in January this year, with our wedding this November. We are now getting married in 8 short weeks (yay!) and and we have had a few major dramas with one guest.
One of the boys in our bridal party – my fiances good friend from school – has a nasty peice of work for a wife. She has no shame, and constantly feels the need to tell me quote: youv ruined his life – hes so miserable – you were jealous of me so forced him to propose
There are many, many other and far worse things she has said about both fiance and I, to the point I am left balwing my eyes out and feeling suffocated with stress. Fiance and I finally decided that she is to be uninvited, as a wedding is a celebration for well wishes and support, all of which she does NOT give.
So we uninvited her. We knew it wouldnt be the end of it all, and she infact forced her Husband to pull out of our wedding party and he will not be attending either.
Finance and i both knew there was a VERY high chance she would do that, but it was a risk we were willing to take because there was definately no way she would be attending our wedding after all the hurtful and nasty things she has said to us both, more so me.
So long story short, has anyone ever faced something similar? I feel so bad for my finance, but he 100% backs me up and agrees that we dont need someone like that on our special day.
Thanks so much Bee’s. Glad to have joind the Bee Family
Post # 3
@Scrivo: You really left the groomsman no choice but to drop out. But since you were half expecting that, I think you still did the right thing. I hope you have a wonderful wedding!
Who knows, perhaps your fiance can keep contact with his friend on a guys-only basis.
Post # 4
I agree, we both knew he would drop out – through texts etc it is VERY clear that she gave him the ultimatum of doing so (poor guy) but we had to think of ourself and the fact that there is a good chance she could start her crap on our day and potentially ruin it for me. She doesnt deserve to be there, shes a horribly, nasty and spiteful person. I feel sorry for her.
The boys are still friends – they never really hung out before as they are both so busy being married/having babies/getting married etc, but the friend kept telling me to stress to my fiance that he has no part in it all and doesnt want to lose fiance’s friendship. so i doubt he will.
Post # 5
Yikes. Hopefully you talked to the guy and told him why you wanted to uninvite his wife?
Post # 6
Oh yes, for weeks and week I bit my tounge and very graciously defended myself and our relationship. All along wondering how on earth he could put up with this, because hei s SUCH a nice guy!
It wasnt until this week when our wedding invitations went out (invite, RSVP, accom, wishing well cards stacked and tied with lilac bakers twine, brown kraft envelopes with a little bit of silver coarse glitter inside just for fun), that i’d finally had enough. She texted the moment she recieved it, blasting me because of the glitter saying our invites werent “infrant friendly” and “you should have thought about that before making them”
um…NO! it is not at all my responsability to worry about who each of our guests have at home when creating our wedding invitations. You open it, throw the envelope with glitter in the bin and put it on the fridge. Did she open it on her kids head or something? Wave it in her face perhaps?
so anyway – Fiance and I snapped it finally, told her exactly where to go, many great uses of the F word and we havent heard back since lol. I did also text her husband (our ex groomsmen) snapshots of her abuse, because there is NO WAY he would have a clue of whats going on, everytime he texted us he would say things like “its too difficult with the irls fighting” as in i played just as big a role as she did. So very glad the drama is all over now, sorry to himt hat he is stuck with a fruit loop, sad for my fiance that his friend wont be there on our big day 🙁
Post # 7
That’s ridiculous. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and FH. Some people just have no dignity or concept of appropriate behaviour. Blech.
Post # 8
It sounds like you did the right thing. My story is the other way around: My fiance was uninvited to a wedding last year. And he was supposed to be the Best Man!! He had been best friends with the groom for about 10 years.
It started when the bride (who I did not know very well) asked me to come to her shower. She said the Maid/Matron of Honor would send me an invitation with the details. She specifically told me to direct all questions I had about the shower to the hostess/MOH. She said it in a way that made me think she didn’t want to deal with me. I bought her a present… waited a while… and never got an invitation.
Two days before the event, I e-mailed the Maid/Matron of Honor and asked for the event details, since my invitation never arrived. The Maid/Matron of Honor never responded. I didn’t know where to go or what to do, so on the day of the shower I sent the bride a sweet message saying I didn’t know where to do or what to do, and I hoped she had a happy day, and I’d give her present to her the next time I saw her.
Her response was completely crazy. The bride and the Maid/Matron of Honor both sent a series of nasty messages berating me. It got seriously weird: “I’m not too incredibly interested in your excuses… I’m done with people not willing to help me out with all this. You truly find out who your close friends are in these situations and I’m glad for it, it helps me see who I should put my time and energy into.” I didn’t know this girl well, so that seemed pretty strange.
I was blindsided by the nastiness, and I cried a lot about it. So my fiance stood up for me and sent the bride a message telling her to chill out. She went nuts on him, too, and their messages got progressively nastier and more profane. After he called her a bitch, it was no surprise that he was un-invited to the wedding. But it was all pretty damn weird.
That was a year and a half ago. We never heard from the couple again.
Post # 9
How crazy! What caused her to act like this?