- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2017
He’s just a man. How has this man treated you? Badly, that’s how. Would you let any other man do this to you and still try to talk to them? Not likely, so don’t do it with him.
Cut the contact. Facebook, phone calls, any way you talk to him now — end it. This is for your sake and the sake of your family. Having someone like this in your life does nothing but keep the door open for bad feelings that affect everyone in your house. Every few months it’ll be, “He didn’t call… again. *sigh*”, and your husband and your child will be hearing this, possibly comforting you. Basically, the house will have a will-he-call cycle… That’s awful. It would affect your household even if you never said a word about it.
Nothing will get better while this man has one lazy, disinterested foot in the door. End all contact. Do this first, then fix yourself up from there. The guilt will go away. You’ll be free.
Your dad is shallow. He has moved on. Not supposed to move on from kids, only from other things, but so what, he did what he felt like and moved on from his kids. The trouble is you can’t change him, he just doesn’t get it.
You will have to have a relationship with your Dad on his terms.
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